The anal canal is surrounded by muscles that allow it to remain tightly closed until voluntarily relaxed, but they are very responsive to training. This article will explain how this works and give tips for strengthening them. For many people who enjoy anal play, including those new to anal stimulation and those seeking deeper insertion, learning to relax their sphincter is key to comfort and pleasure. But it takes practice! With patience and persistence, you can train your body to enjoy sensations and depths previously unimaginable.
How do anal sphincters work?
Your pelvic floor contains two sets of sphincter muscles: one at the entrance to the vagina and one between the anus and rectum. The external set, called the puborectal sling, creates pressure against the back wall of the vagina during orgasm; the internal set, the levator ani, surrounds the rectum. When contracted, these muscles prevent waste from escaping while standing or walking - and also restrict penetration. When relaxed, they allow intercourse or penetrative objects to enter further inward. To relax your sphincters, you must consciously choose to let go. Inhale deeply, then exhale as if making a soft farting sound. Relax your body completely. Allow yourself to feel the warmth of the moment.
Tips for relaxation
Use lube liberally, especially water-based lubricant. Lubricant makes everything smoother, and helps you move more easily without excess friction. Start small with a slender object like a finger or butt plug, taking time to become accustomed to the sensation before trying something larger. You may find this easier on all fours or lying down, propped up on pillows. Communicate with your partner about how things are feeling. Some people prefer slow, gentle stretching over longer periods, others prefer fast, sharp bursts of stimulation. It's entirely up to you! Experiment with different types of objects and positions to discover what feels best for you. Don't rush it; take as much time as needed. As you progress, consider inserting smaller dildos or even sex toys designed for anal training such as the Aneros line.
Other benefits of relaxation
Relaxing your anus can help improve bowel movements and alleviate constipation by allowing you to evacuate properly. This is especially important for women who experience pelvic floor tension during labor, which can lead to difficulties with incontinence after giving birth. For some men, learning to relax their sphincter muscles reduces symptoms of prostate cancer, hemorrhoids, and other conditions affecting the area. Anal play requires trust and open communication between partners; be sure to listen to each other's needs and desires at all times. When done correctly, it can add spice and intimacy to any relationship..