If you are having difficulty in your relationship with your partner because they don't meet your needs in bed or there is no connection between you both during sex then you must talk to them about it but without sounding angry and offensive. Here are some ways that will help you to overcome this issue.
1) Talk to your partner openly: Have an honest conversation with your partner regarding what you want from them in bed and how their behavior affects you emotionally. You can even give examples like "When I go down on you, I feel embarrassed because." or "You always say no when I suggest new things which makes me feel rejected".
2) Show your vulnerability: When you show your vulnerable side to your partner, they will be more receptive towards you. They will understand where you come from and why you need them to change.
You can tell them, "I am scared to talk about this but please listen. I need more attention."
3) Take a break: Sometimes taking time apart can bring a lot of clarity and perspective into your relationship. It is also good for self-care and emotional healing. So if things get really bad, take a break so that you can focus on yourself and come back together later when you have worked out all the issues between each other.
4) Make changes in your lifestyle: Changing your lifestyle habits can lead to positive changes in your body as well as mindset. If you think that your sexual dissatisfaction comes from lack of exercise or poor diet, make necessary changes in your life. Exercise increases libido by increasing blood flow, so work out regularly. Eat food rich in iron, zinc, magnesium, omega 3 fatty acids etc., as it helps in improving sex drive.
5) Seek professional help: There are many professionals who specialize in relationships and couples therapy. They can help you resolve your issues and provide better communication skills among partners. You can either attend individual sessions or go together with your partner.
6) Try different positions: Changing the position during intercourse can add variety and excitement to your bedroom routine. Try new poses like standing up, lying down, sitting down, sideways etc. Or try missionary position while kneeling down at their feet which will turn them on instantly!
7) Masturbate: Some people masturbate because they don't want anyone else involved in their pleasure and some do it to avoid sex altogether due to fear of rejection. But if done rightly, mutual masturbation can be very intimate and satisfying for both the partners.
8) Use sex toys: Vibrators are great tools for women and men alike. It is easy to use and gives more power to your orgasm. Couples also enjoy using them together as vibrators come in various shapes and sizes.
9) Make time for yourself: Your relationship won't always remain perfect and sometimes there are times when your partner won't meet your needs even after trying hard. So take care of yourself mentally and emotionally by doing things that make you happy alone- like reading a book, taking a long bath or going out with friends.
How do you negotiate sexual dissatisfaction while maintaining intimacy?
Dissatisfaction with sex is common, especially if it's been going on for a long time. It's important to remember that each person has different needs, preferences, and desires when it comes to their sexuality. If one partner is experiencing more sexual satisfaction than the other partner, this can cause tension between them. Negotiating sexual dissatisfaction requires open communication and compromise from both partners.