Intimate behavior has been shown to play an important role in maintaining marital satisfaction. Research suggests that frequent sexual activity can serve as a source of emotional connection and closeness between partners (Carmichael & Cheng, 2016).
There are times when sexual frequency may decrease for various reasons, such as physical or psychological factors related to aging, parenthood, stress, illness, or changes in libido (Hamilton et al., 2018; Hurtado et al., 2021). This decline can impact couples' perception of their relationship quality and lead to feelings of dissatisfaction or disconnection (Murphy et al., 2015). Therefore, it is essential for couples to find ways to sustain intimacy even when sexual frequency decreases.
One way to do this is through non-sexual physical touch, which can foster feelings of closeness and security without necessarily involving sex.
Holding hands, hugging, cuddling, or massages can all be forms of affectionate communication that strengthen emotional bonds (Kelly & Kelly, 2019). Couples can also engage in other activities together, such as date nights, shared meals, or walks in nature, that allow them to connect on a deeper level (Murphy et al., 2015).
Open communication about intimacy needs and desires can help partners better understand each other's perspectives and work together to meet those needs (Gray et al., 2017).
Another important factor is creating rituals or traditions that reinforce connection and commitment. These might include regular bedtime routines, special occasions, or shared interests that are unique to the couple (Diamond, 2013). It is also important to prioritize time alone with one another, whether that means scheduling weekly dates or making space for uninterrupted conversations (Carmichael & Cheng, 2016). This helps keep the relationship fresh and allows both partners to feel valued and appreciated.
Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can provide valuable resources during periods of low sexual frequency. Counseling or therapy can address any underlying issues that may be contributing to decreased libido or difficulty connecting emotionally (Hamilton et al., 2018; Hurtado et al., 2021). And friends or family members can offer social support, validation, and encouragement during times of stress or challenge (Sieverding et al., 2019).
Sustaining intimacy when sexual frequency declines requires intentional effort and creativity, but it can lead to greater overall satisfaction in the long run.
How do couples sustain intimacy when sexual frequency declines?
One of the most important factors that impact on maintaining intimacy between two people is communication. According to psychologists, communication helps partners learn about each other's needs and preferences which can be useful for finding new ways to strengthen their relationship, such as through non-sexual activities like sharing hobbies, exercising together or going out for dinner dates. It also enables them to express themselves honestly without fear of judgment, leading to increased trust, understanding and respect for one another.