Sensate focus exercises involve touching each other's body parts without any genital stimulation or intercourse. They can be done alone or with a partner. These exercises help build trust, increase arousal, create novel sensations, and promote emotional closeness. Here are some examples of sensate focus exercises:
1. Body scan exercise: Touch your partner's entire body slowly and carefully, focusing on different areas like their face, hands, arms, legs, back, etc., without any expectations or demands.
2. Hand holding exercise: Hold hands for several minutes, exploring and savouring every sensation created.
3. Massage exercise: Give each other a full-body massage using oil, focusing on the pressure points and strokes.
4. Kissing exercise: Kiss each other passionately and explore all types of kisses such as closed mouth, open mouth, gentle, deep, long, wet, dry, soft, hard, etc.
5. Fondling exercise: Caress and stroke your partner's body while lying down in bed. Use long gliding movements, circular motions, and featherlike touches.
6. Genital exploration exercise: Explore your own and your partner's genitals without touching the erogenous zones. Discover new ways to caress them gently and intensely.
7. Breathing exercise: Take deep breaths together and synchronize your breath patterns. Feel how your bodies respond to each other's breath.
8. Tickle exercise: Use your fingertips to tickle each other's erogenous zones slowly and rhythmically.
9. Eye contact exercise: Gaze into each other's eyes deeply and intimately, without saying anything. Notice how it affects you emotionally and physically.
10. Touch exercise: Experiment with different textures and temperatures like silk, velvet, ice, hot water bottles, hot stones, etc., to create novel sensations.
These exercises help improve communication, reduce stress, increase relaxation, and enhance sexual arousal by reconnecting partners with their bodies. Practice these regularly to build a healthy, fulfilling, and pleasurable sex life.