When it comes to managing feelings of helplessness caused by PTSD in their partner's life, people tend to fall into one of two camps: those who feel like there isn't anything they can do about it and give up trying because they don't want their partner to suffer anymore; and those who try but fail and get frustrated that despite all their efforts, things aren't getting better. So what can you do if your spouse is suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? How do partners manage feeling helpless when their relationship suffers due to trauma symptoms? Here are some ways to cope and improve intimacy in your marriage:
Step 1: Understand What Is Going On
It may seem obvious that knowing what is happening will help but many partners find themselves stuck because they don't understand how PTSD manifests or why their spouse behaves certain ways. One of the most important aspects of understanding PTSD is learning what triggers these reactions. People with PTSD often have hyperarousal symptoms which mean they become easily triggered by sounds, smells, images, sights, or thoughts associated with past traumas. This makes them extremely sensitive and quick to react to perceived threats which can lead to flashbacks, panic attacks, or even aggression. Knowing what sets off these reactions helps partners avoid triggering them while also allowing for more empathy for their loved one's condition.
Step 2: Establish Boundaries
Establish boundaries with your spouse about what kind of behavior you will accept in order to keep yourself safe. Make sure you talk about this beforehand so that there are no misunderstandings later on.
You might say something like "I need time alone after work" or "Please try not to yell at me". These requests should be specific enough so as not to be ambiguous but flexible enough that your partner doesn't feel restricted. If they agree, then make sure to respect those agreements when possible!
Step 3: Be Aware Of Your Emotions
When dealing with someone who has PTSD, it's easy for our own emotional needs to get pushed aside. We may worry too much about our partner or feel guilty if we express anger towards them.
Ignoring our feelings only leads us down a path where resentment builds up until eventually, we lash out without meaning too - causing even more damage than before! It's important instead to acknowledge how YOU feel in each situation rather than focusing solely on the other person.
Step 4: Seek Professional Help
A mental health professional can provide additional support and education regarding PTSD and its effects on relationships. They can also help couples develop better communication skills for working through problems together as well as providing insight into how best to manage triggers while still maintaining intimacy within the relationship. This could mean attending marriage counseling sessions together or doing activities separately such as going hiking or taking dance classes outside of home life.
How do partners of veterans manage feelings of helplessness when intimacy is affected by trauma symptoms they cannot control?
According to researchers at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine (2015), partners of veterans who are dealing with trauma symptoms that affect their ability to maintain intimate relationships may experience a range of emotions, including but not limited to helplessness, frustration, sadness, anger, anxiety, and fear. This can be especially challenging for partners as it often leaves them feeling powerless to help their loved one heal from these experiences.