You may have heard that some people find it difficult to talk about their sexual desires with others. This is especially true for those who feel ashamed of certain fantasies or fetishes they have. It can be hard to overcome this sense of shame if you don't know how to start talking about your needs openly and honestly with someone else. However, there are ways to build up your self-confidence again and regain control over your desires. Here are some steps that might help:
1. Talk to someone trustworthy about your feelings. You don't need to tell them everything about yourself, but finding a confidant who will listen without judging you can make all the difference. Don't worry about being misunderstood; they probably won't judge you based on your fantasy or fetish. Instead, focus on what makes you feel good sexually and why.
2. Think about what turned you off about the activity in question. Were you embarrassed because of how it was presented? Did it remind you of something traumatic from childhood? Try to separate yourself from the memory so that you can think clearly about what really happened and whether or not it should bother you now.
3. Consider what would happen if you did try out your fantasy or fetish again - could it possibly make things better between you and your partner(s)? If not, then maybe it's time to move on to other activities instead. But if it does sound appealing, then go ahead! Just remember to keep communication open at all times so both parties feel comfortable discussing their limits.
4. Take baby steps when starting out - don't jump right into full-on role play or kink sessions immediately. Start small by experimenting with different types of intimacy (kissing, massage) before progressing further down the line. This way, you won't be scared away by intense emotions or fears of rejection.
5. Remember that everyone has their own preferences, tastes, and boundaries - yours may be different than others'. Don't compare yourself too much to them; do what feels natural for YOU without trying to please someone else. And finally. 6. Seek professional help if necessary - there are therapists who specialize in sexual health issues like these who can give you personalized advice tailored specifically to your situation. They might also suggest books or articles related to the topic if they know which ones are best suited for beginners like yourself!