Bisexual individuals face unique challenges in disclosing and expressing their sexual orientation due to societal stigma and discrimination that can lead to feelings of isolation and shame. As a result, some bisexuals may choose to hide or downplay certain aspects of their identity to fit into heteronormative or homonormative norms. This phenomenon is known as "bisexual invisibility" or "bisexual erasure," which has negative consequences for mental health, self-esteem, and romantic and sexual relationships. In this article, we will explore how bi erasure affects psychological patterns in bisexual individuals and what strategies they can employ to cope with it.
Let's define bisexuality as an attraction to both men and women, or people of multiple genders. Bisexuality encompasses a wide range of identities, including pansexuality, fluidity, polyamory, and non-binary gender identities.
Many bisexuals experience prejudice and stereotypes such as being promiscuous, confused, or greedy for attention. These misconceptions create a climate of fear and mistrust that leads to social exclusion, harassment, and abuse.
When bisexuals feel pressure to conceal their true selves, they may engage in "bi-suppression," wherein they deny their attractions altogether or focus on only one side of their identity, such as exclusively dating members of the opposite sex. Bi-suppressors may also adopt rigid gender roles, avoiding any behavior that challenges traditional masculinity/femininity stereotypes. Unfortunately, this strategy often results in internalized homophobia, anxiety, depression, and self-loathing.
Another common pattern involves "bi-compartmentalization," wherein bisexuals separate their romantic and sexual lives into distinct compartments.
Some may have a "public" heterosexual life and a "private" queer existence. This strategy enables bi-compartmentalizers to navigate stigma and discrimination but can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and loneliness. They may struggle with trust issues, codependency, and difficulty balancing intimacy and autonomy.
To cope with these patterns, bisexuals can practice self-compassion, mindfulness, and assertiveness skills.
By recognizing and acknowledging their thoughts and feelings without judgment, they can challenge internalized biphobic messages and build confidence. Focusing on positive attributes and relationships rather than external validation can help cultivate healthy self-esteem.
Identifying supportive communities, allies, and mental health professionals can provide emotional and practical resources.
What psychological patterns emerge when bisexual individuals suppress or compartmentalize aspects of their identity to maintain social acceptance or familial harmony?
Bisexual individuals may experience self-imposed restrictions on their behavior and expression due to social pressures related to their sexual orientation. This can result in the suppression or compartmentalization of their identity in order to maintain social acceptance or familial harmony. The psychological effects of this suppression can include feelings of isolation, confusion, guilt, shame, and anxiety.