Infidelity is a relationship issue that has far-reaching consequences for both parties involved. It brings up feelings of betrayal, anger, hurt, sadness, distrust, confusion, and anxiety in a couple's life. But it also affects their physical connection, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy and relational trust. Sexual intimacy refers to the deep emotional bond between partners where they can be vulnerable and express themselves freely without fear of rejection or judgement. Relational trust is the confidence that your partner will remain loyal to you through all circumstances.
When infidelity occurs, the victim may feel like they have lost their identity, self-esteem, security, and sense of worthiness. They question whether they are attractive enough, lovable enough, or deserving enough of love and attention from their partner. This leads them to withdraw emotionally and sexually, which further damages the relationship. To restore these aspects of the relationship, couples therapy can help them heal from past trauma, communicate more openly and honestly, and build healthy communication skills.
Therapists encourage couples to establish rules around their sexual connection by setting boundaries and expectations.
They may decide to schedule weekly date nights or romantic getaways together, limit screen time during dates, or practice mindfulness exercises to increase presence and awareness of each other. Secondly, they work on resolving conflicts constructively so both partners feel heard and understood without blame or criticism. Thirdly, they discuss intimate topics such as needs and desires for sexual pleasure, exploring fantasies, role-playing scenarios, and safe sex practices.
Therapists suggest new ways of communicating about sensitive subjects such as past experiences with previous lovers or current feelings about cheating. Couples learn to listen actively, validate each other's emotions, ask questions rather than make assumptions, and express themselves calmly without defensiveness or aggression.
Therapists provide practical tips on enhancing physical touch through nonverbal cues like eye contact, body language, and affectionate gestures. By taking small steps towards rebuilding trust and connection, couples find that infidelity need not be a permanent rupture in their bond.
How can therapy help couples restore sexual intimacy and relational trust after infidelity?
Therapy can help couples restore sexual intimacy and relational trust after infidelity by providing a safe space for open communication, exploring underlying issues that may have contributed to the affair, teaching effective conflict resolution skills, encouraging empathy and compassion, and promoting healthy boundaries and expectations.