Sexual guilt is the result of feelings of remorse or shame associated with one's own sexual behavior, thoughts, desires, impulses, beliefs, and/or actions. In regards to developing a bisexual identity, sexual shame can be particularly damaging because it may lead to a feeling of being unworthy of love, acceptance, or intimacy due to one's perceived sexual orientation. This feeling of inferiority can impact a person's mental health and wellbeing, leading to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and even suicidal ideation. It can also prevent individuals from seeking out healthy forms of sexual expression that might otherwise bring them pleasure and fulfillment.
In terms of psychological effects, sexual shame often leads to negative thought patterns, such as "I am unlovable," "My body is disgusting," or "I don't deserve happiness." These thoughts are often accompanied by feelings of embarrassment, humiliation, and isolation. People who experience sexual shame may feel like they have to hide their true selves in order to be accepted by society, which can create further distress and loneliness. They may also engage in riskier behaviors such as anonymous sex or substance abuse in an attempt to numb these negative emotions.
Bisexual individuals may face additional challenges related to sexual shame. Some cultures and societies stigmatize non-heterosexual identities, creating a sense of alienation and fear for those who identify as bisexual.
Bisexuals may experience pressure to conform to either the gay or straight world, which can make it difficult to find support systems and community. This lack of belonging can exacerbate feelings of isolation and alienation.
There are ways to overcome sexual shame. Therapy and counseling can help individuals work through these issues and build self-acceptance and self-compassion. Support groups can provide a safe space to connect with others facing similar experiences.
Educating oneself about bisexuality and its various expressions can help challenge stereotypes and create a more positive identity narrative.
What psychological effects emerge from sexual shame or guilt during the development of a bisexual identity?
Psychological research has identified various psychological consequences that can arise from feelings of sexual shame or guilt during the formation of a bisexual identity. One common consequence is increased self-doubt and low self-esteem due to feeling conflicted about one's own attractions and desires (Fisher & Patterson, 2019).