Relational Adjustments for Veterans Experiencing Trauma-Induced Sensory Sensitivity Changes
Touch is an essential aspect of human interaction. It provides physical and emotional comfort, expresses love and affection, communicates emotions, and develops trust and intimacy between partners.
Some veterans experience trauma-induced changes in their sensory sensitivity to touch, making it challenging to maintain normal relationships. This paper discusses how these changes affect closeness, arousal, and touch during sex, and what relational adjustments are necessary to manage them.
Touch
Traumatic experiences can change a person's physical sensations to touch, leading to heightened responses to certain textures, temperatures, or pressure.
Someone who was injured in combat may become hypersensitive to pain and discomfort, while another may feel numbness in their limbs. These changes can cause anxiety and distress, especially when experiencing sexual touch. Partners must be aware of these differences and learn new ways to interact physically without triggering the trauma response.
One way to navigate this challenge is to communicate openly about the changed sensitivities and boundaries. This includes agreeing on specific rules for physical interactions that avoid triggers, such as gentle massages or limited hugs. Some couples find it helpful to use props like blankets or pillows to create a buffer between their bodies during close contact. Others prefer to engage in non-touch activities such as cuddling or watching movies together.
Another strategy is to explore alternative forms of intimacy outside of direct touch. This could involve verbal affirmation, sharing feelings and thoughts, or engaging in sensual activities without touch.
Kissing or caressing with clothes on, holding hands, or exploring fantasies through roleplay. These alternatives allow partners to express love and connection without risking physical discomfort.
Closeness
Trauma-induced changes in sensory sensitivity can also affect closeness and physical proximity. Veterans may struggle with feelings of claustrophobia or suffocation due to sensory overload. They may need more space than usual or prefer certain positions or locations during sex. Partners should respect these needs and offer support by finding alternative ways to connect emotionally and spiritually.
This could include taking walks together, cooking meals, or sharing activities that foster emotional intimacy. Open communication about feelings and desires can help build trust and understanding, even if they are not sexual. Partners who share a deep bond can continue to nurture each other's emotional wellbeing despite physical challenges.
Arousal
Sensory sensitivities can also impact arousal and desire for sex. Some veterans may experience reduced libido or difficulty achieving orgasm due to traumatic memories associated with touch or stimulation. Others may become hypersexualized and seek out extreme or risky experiences as a way to cope. In either case, partners must be patient and accepting while supporting their loved one's healing journey.
One approach is to focus on emotional connection rather than physical pleasure. This means avoiding pressure or demands for specific actions but instead prioritizing mutual affection and emotional safety. Partners can use words like "I love you" and "you matter to me" to reinforce the relationship's strength and security, creating an environment where vulnerability is encouraged and appreciated.
Another strategy is to experiment with different types of touch during sex.
Using toys, roleplay, or sensory-focused activities like blindfolded or edible games. These options provide new sensations and allow both parties to explore their needs without triggering trauma responses.
Relational adjustments are necessary when a veteran experiences trauma-induced changes in sensory sensitivity that affect touch, closeness, or arousal. By communicating openly, exploring alternatives, and focusing on emotional connection, partners can navigate these challenges together and build a stronger bond. With patience, empathy, and support, couples can overcome any obstacles and maintain healthy relationships despite physical differences.
References
1. "The Effects of Trauma on Touch Perception: Implications for Intimacy and Sexuality." Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, vol. 42, no. 5, pp. 387–396. doi:10.1080/009267457.2016.11696003
What relational adjustments become necessary when a veteran experiences trauma-induced changes in sensory sensitivity that affect touch, closeness, or arousal?
After experiencing trauma, many veterans may find themselves struggling with their sensory sensitivity due to hyperarousal of the nervous system. This can lead to difficulties in managing relationships as they may struggle with physical contact, intimacy, and other forms of social interaction.