We will explore how partners can adapt to the challenges posed by the emotional dependence and emotional distancing cycle that is characteristic of veterans suffering from PTSD.
The term "post-traumatic stress disorder" is often used to describe an individual's response to a traumatic event, such as combat, but it is actually more accurate to say that many individuals develop post-traumatic stress symptoms. These symptoms include intrusive thoughts about the trauma, avoidance of reminders of the trauma, negative changes in mood or cognitions related to the trauma, increased anxiety, irritability, anger, insomnia, flashbacks, and nightmares. As a result, the sufferer may experience difficulty regulating their emotions, leading to alternating cycles of intense emotional dependence followed by periods of emotional distancing. This can be particularly difficult for partners who are trying to maintain intimacy within a romantic relationship.
One of the most common ways partners can help their partner cope with these cycles is through active listening. Active listening involves truly paying attention to what your partner is saying without interrupting or offering advice. Instead, you should try to repeat back what they have said in order to ensure that you understand them correctly. It also means validating their feelings and experiences, even if you do not necessarily agree with them.
Instead of saying, "I know exactly how you feel," which implies that you share their exact experience, you could say, "It sounds like this situation has been very challenging for you."
Another way to support your partner during times of emotional distancing is by respecting their need for space. Sometimes, veterans who are struggling with PTSD will withdraw from their partners emotionally as a way of protecting themselves. During these times, you should still offer affection and support, but it is important to give them the time and space to process their feelings on their own terms. Let them know that you are there for them when they're ready to talk, but don't push too hard.
Remember that the symptoms of PTSD are treatable with therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes. Encourage your partner to seek professional help if they are experiencing symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder.
Make sure that you are taking care of yourself so that you can be a supportive partner both during good times and bad. Seek out counseling or support groups for family members of veterans with PTSD if necessary.
How do partners adapt when a veteran's trauma results in alternating cycles of emotional dependence and emotional distancing?
When partners of a veteran experience their partner's struggle with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and its symptoms, such as alternating cycles of emotional dependence and emotional distancing, they may feel confused, overwhelmed, frustrated, and even helpless. They may also feel guilty for not being able to help their loved one cope with PTSD better and may blame themselves for causing it.