Many factors influence a couple's transition from being non-parents to parents. One of the most important is how they adapt their relationship to include children while maintaining a strong emotional bond between them that includes sexuality and intimacy. There are some basic principles that can help make this process easier.
It helps to communicate openly about one's needs and desires regarding sex and intimacy before becoming parents. This will help set expectations for when the baby arrives so that both partners feel comfortable expressing themselves without fear of rejection or disappointment.
Couples should discuss when they want to have sex after the birth, if either partner has any physical concerns related to pregnancy/childbirth, and what types of activities they enjoy doing together during these times. It's also helpful for each person to understand the other's preferences around privacy and timing - such as whether they need time alone before or after having sex.
Establishing regular date nights can be key in keeping the romance alive. These don't have to be elaborate affairs but simple dinners out or activities at home where the two of you get away from parenting responsibilities can go far towards helping build closeness and connection. Taking turns planning these dates makes them special because each person gets to choose something unique based on their interests.
Finding ways to incorporate playfulness into your day-to-day interactions with each other keeps things fun even when life feels hectic.
Setting boundaries with friends and family members who may not understand why it's still necessary for couples to prioritize their own relationship over being "mommy" or "daddy" all the time is important too. Letting others know upfront how much support you need (or lack thereof) around your new role can reduce pressure and resentment while allowing everyone involved more freedom within those limits.
Remember that every couple's journey through parenthood will look different; some people find it easier than others depending on many factors including age, finances, work demands etc., so it's okay if progress comes slowly over months rather than days. Just keep talking openly about what works best for both partners throughout this process so that changes can be made along the way if needed!
What psychological adjustments are necessary for couples to integrate sexuality into the new identity of parenthood?
One of the most significant changes that happen when couples become parents is their shifting priorities. Suddenly, there's less time and energy available for each other because of the demands of caring for a child. This can be difficult for many couples who have enjoyed an active sex life before the baby arrived. It's important for both partners to understand this change and accept it as part of parenthood.