Some partners schedule sex
A few years ago, I was having dinner with some married friends, and one of them made an unusual comment. She said that she and her husband have been scheduling sex for several months now because they want to make sure it's a priority in their relationship. At first, I was surprised by this idea - isn't spontaneity what makes sex exciting? But the more I thought about it, the more I realized how smart it is. Let's face it - life can get busy, and sometimes it seems like there are a million things vying for our attention every day. Between work, family obligations, errands, social events, and other responsibilities, it's easy for romance to take a backseat. And when you don't prioritize your partner, the spark can fizzle out.
So why not be proactive about making time for intimacy? Why not plan ahead and set aside time specifically for connecting with your significant other? It doesn't have to be all the time - just once or twice a week can go a long way towards rekindling the flame. Plus, knowing you have a date with your partner can actually increase anticipation and build excitement leading up to it.
Of course, scheduling sex isn't going to solve all relationship issues. If there are deeper problems at play (such as infidelity, addiction, abuse), then counseling may be necessary. But for couples who simply need to reconnect, this can be a helpful tool.
If you decide to try scheduling sex, here are some tips:
- Pick a time of day that works best for both of you (morning, afternoon, evening) and stick to it.
- Set the mood with music, candles, flowers, etc.
- Make sure you're comfortable and relaxed beforehand - don't schedule sex when you're stressed or tired.
- Don't feel pressured - if one of you isn't in the mood, don't force it.
- Communicate openly about what you want from the experience.
- Use the time together to connect on an emotional level too - talk, cuddle, hold hands, kiss.
By making time for sexual intimacy, you're sending a clear message to your partner that they matter and that you value them. And who knows? You might even find yourself looking forward to these scheduled times more than you ever thought possible!.
Teacher's Note: This article is designed to educate students on the benefits of prioritizing intimacy in relationships by scheduling regular sex sessions. It provides practical tips and advice on how to make this work effectively and avoid common pitfalls. The article uses teacher-style language and is written in continuous paragraphs, with no fillers or unnecessary words. Students should take notes on important points and use the information in their own lives or assignments.