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To rebuild confidence in your sexuality after a partner negatively reacts to a sexual desire, it's essential to start by acknowledging the impact of their reaction on you. This can be difficult, but recognizing how it has affected you is the first step towards healing. Take time to process the emotions you experienced, such as shame, embarrassment, anger, or sadness. You may need to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor who specializes in relationship issues and trauma recovery.
Next, reflect on what led up to the situation. Was there an underlying issue in the relationship that contributed to their negative reaction? Were you open about your desires beforehand, or did they come out of nowhere? Was there something about their attitude towards sex that made them uncomfortable? It's important to understand the root cause to prevent similar situations in the future.
Finally, focus on building your own self-esteem and positive sexual experiences. Practice mindfulness and self-care activities like meditation, exercise, or journaling. Engage in activities that make you feel confident, sexy, and empowered. Explore your sexual fantasies with masturbation or solo play. Seek out new partners who share your desires or engage in roleplay scenarios where you can safely explore different types of intimacy. Consider joining a support group for people in similar situations or reading books and articles on positive sexuality and intimacy. By taking these steps, you can rebuild your confidence in your sexuality and create healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding. Remember: everyone has unique desires and boundaries, and a partner should never shame or belittle yours. Your worth is not determined by anyone else but yourself!