Many families have strong beliefs about what is appropriate behavior, which can result in avoiding certain topics that are considered taboo. In some cases, this may include discussions related to gender and sexual orientation. This silence can create confusion for young people who may be questioning their own identities and feelings. Adolescents may feel pressured to hide their true selves from their family members, leading to isolation, stress, and anxiety. It can also lead to a lack of understanding of their identity, creating additional psychological strain. Family secrecy and avoidance of LGBTQ topics can cause adolescents to question their place within society, making them more vulnerable to external discrimination and rejection.
The effects of familial secrecy and avoidance on adolescent mental health are profound. When adolescents don't receive support and acceptance from their families, they may turn elsewhere for validation or community. Some turn to social media, where they encounter online bullying and trolling, further exacerbating their emotional distress. Others may engage in risky behaviors such as substance abuse or self-harm as coping mechanisms. The long-term consequences of these behaviors can be devastating.
When adolescents do not have access to accurate information about sex, sexuality, and relationships, it can lead to unhealthy patterns of thought and behavior. They may internalize negative messages about themselves and their bodies, leading to body dysmorphia, eating disorders, and other mental health issues. They may develop unrealistic expectations about romantic partnerships and experience difficulty forming healthy connections with others.
This secrecy and avoidance can have significant implications for adolescent development and well-being.
To promote positive mental health and identity clarity among young people, families must create safe spaces for open dialogue about gender and sexual orientation. Parents should provide accurate information about the spectrum of human identities and experiences, emphasizing that there is no "right" way to be LGBTQ. Families should also model inclusive attitudes toward all members of society and refrain from making derogatory comments or jokes at the expense of any group. Adolescents need to know that they are loved and valued regardless of their gender expression or sexual orientation. By creating a supportive environment, families can help adolescents develop healthy self-esteem and a strong sense of belonging within their community.
How do familial secrecy and avoidance of LGBTQ topics affect adolescent mental health and identity clarity?
A study by Currie et al. (2018) found that family secrecy about sexual orientation and gender identity negatively impacted LGBTQ adolescents' wellbeing and mental health. Participants who reported experiencing secrecy and avoidance from their families were more likely to exhibit symptoms of depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and self-harm than those who did not.