Exploring taboo topics can be exciting but also risky if you don't know how to do it safely. Here are some tips for exploring your taboos without putting yourself at risk.
First, research the topic thoroughly before you dive in. Read books, articles, and watch documentaries about the topic to learn more about it. Talk to people who have experience with it to get their perspective. Be aware that what may seem like a harmless activity could have serious consequences. For example, certain types of consensual non-monogamy can lead to jealousy, infidelity, and broken trust.
Next, set boundaries with yourself and others. Decide ahead of time which activities are okay and which ones aren't. Establish rules for safety and communication during playtime. Don't pressure anyone into doing something they don't want to do, and don't agree to anything that makes you uncomfortable. If someone pressures or coerces you, walk away immediately. Don't make promises or give ultimatums.
Choose your partners carefully. Make sure they understand and respect your boundaries. Find out how much experience they have, what kind of relationships they have had, and whether they have any sexual history of abuse. Have an open conversation with them about your expectations and limits. Don't rely solely on physical attraction; choose someone with whom you feel comfortable being vulnerable emotionally as well.
Practice consent. Consent is explicit agreement between all parties involved. Verbalize "yes" or "no", not just by body language or eye contact. Never assume consent because someone doesn't say "no." Be clear about what you want and don't want from each other. Communicate throughout the activity to ensure everyone stays safe and happy.
Use protection during sex or intimate touching to prevent STIs and pregnancy. Use condoms, dental dams, gloves, and lube for anal or vaginal penetration. Get tested regularly for STIs if you engage in risky behaviors like multiple partners or high-risk sex acts.
Finally, take breaks when needed. Sex can be intense and emotional, so it's important to step back and check in with yourself and your partner(s) periodically. Don't push past your comfort level, even if your partner wants more. Take a break to recharge before continuing. End playtime cleanly and respectfully.
Exploring taboos safely requires communication, self-awareness, and caution. Do your research and set boundaries before getting started. Choose partners who share your values and understand your needs. Practice consent and safety measures at all times. With careful preparation and planning, you can explore new frontiers without putting yourself at risk.