The aging population has always been seen as a liability to society. As individuals age, they are perceived as having less energy and fewer desires, losing their vitality and independence, becoming more vulnerable to disease and disability, requiring increased care and assistance, costing more money to support, and generally being less relevant than younger generations. This negative viewpoint is particularly strong when it comes to LGBTQ+ elders. Even within the LGBTQ+ community, older members have long faced prejudice, discrimination, and social isolation due to homophobia, transphobia, and ageism.
Many aging LGBTQ+ people reject these narratives of decline and irrelevance, refusing to accept that they should be sidelined or ignored simply because they are no longer young or active. They continue to pursue meaningful relationships, seek out new experiences, engage in political activism, maintain personal hobbies, and contribute to their communities in various ways. Some even embrace the wisdom and insights that come with aging, using their life experience to mentor younger generations and advocate for positive change.
One way that some LGBTQ+ elders resist the narrative of decline is by staying physically and socially active. Many participate in sports and exercise programs tailored specifically to seniors, attend social events like dances and movie nights, volunteer at local organizations, and join clubs or groups focused on shared interests. Others take advantage of technology to connect with friends and family online, stay informed about current events, and express themselves creatively through writing, art, music, or other forms of expression.
Other elders find fulfillment through intimate relationships, forming emotional bonds with partners who share similar backgrounds and values. These individuals may use dating apps like Grindr or Tinder to meet potential partners, or attend singles' gatherings organized by local gay-friendly churches or community centers. For those who prefer long-term commitments, there are matchmaking services designed specifically for senior citizens looking for love.
Some aging LGBTQ+ people also choose to defy expectations by embracing sexuality and eroticism as a part of their lives. While not all older adults feel comfortable with this aspect of their identity, many others enjoy exploring their sexual desires and fantasies without shame or judgment. They may engage in casual sex, seek out kink or BDSM play, explore polyamory or open relationships, or simply enjoy sharing intimacy with loved ones.
Each individual must decide how they want to age and what matters most to them. Some may prioritize health and wellness, while others focus on adventure and excitement. Still, others may value service and contribution above all else. Whatever path they choose, it is important that these seniors feel valued and supported in their later years, free from negative stereotypes and prejudice.
How do aging LGBTQ+ people resist or internalize narratives of decline and irrelevance?
According to a study by Zhou et al. (2019), as LGBTQ+ individuals age they experience unique challenges that can lead to feelings of isolation, loneliness, and a sense of loss of identity. One way that aging LGBTQ+ individuals may resist these narratives is through community building and activism.