Some people have one object that they use across scenes to help them remember where they are in their dynamic, and how to get back there when they need to.
For example, a person might wear a certain piece of jewelry during all BDSM play, which is an important reminder to themselves and their partner(s) about who they are together and what kind of scene they're in. If someone has the collar around their neck, they know it's time to be dominant; if they take it off, they know it's subspace time. That collar is like a ritual object because it helps them stay in character by connecting them to a certain role or activity.
Another example would be using a flogger for corporal punishment—every time you pick up this tool, you know it means "time to spank". This can be helpful if you're switching between different scenes quickly or playing with multiple partners at once, because it keeps everyone on the same page and focused on what they should be doing.
In terms of sexuality and relationships, these kinds of objects can also serve as tokens of intimacy and trust. For example, some couples exchange collars as part of their commitment ceremony; other times, partners might give each other ribbons or ropes as gifts to signify their bond. These symbols make physical manifestations of something abstract (like love), so they become powerful reminders of connection even when they aren't being used directly.
When two people share objects like these, they build shared memory that reinforces their relationship and makes it stronger over time. If one person starts wearing the collar before every session, the other will start associating that action with their partner—and vice versa! That way, whenever either person looks down at the accessory, they'll feel more connected than ever.
Overall, consistent objects are an important part of many kinky dynamics because they create strong memories and emotional anchors for participants. They help cue headspace more deeply and keep everyone on track during play.