Apart from biological differences such as hormone levels, genitalia size and function, and the presence of secondary sexual characteristics like breasts and facial hair, there is one significant difference between men and women that plays out in their daily lives: how they perceive and react to sexual rejections in committed partnerships. Men and women experience sexual rejection differently due to different social norms about masculinity and femininity, which influence their perception of self and others. These differences may have varying consequences for the relationship, including increased stress, decreased trust, and even infidelity.
Societal expectations suggest that men should be more promiscuous than women while women are expected to be less so. This means that when men encounter sexual rejection, they usually feel shame and embarrassment because they believe it reflects poorly on their manhood. On the other hand, when women reject sex, they often attribute it to external factors, such as being tired or having a headache, instead of internal ones like lack of interest or discomfort.
Men may feel more entitled to sexual attention from their partner, viewing themselves as 'manly' if she submits to his sexual advances, whereas women may feel pressure to fulfill their partner's needs without considering their own desires.
Men who face sexual rejection may become distant emotionally or physically, express anger or frustration at their partner, or turn to pornography or extramarital affairs to fulfil their needs. Women who reject sex may experience guilt, fear of damaging the relationship, and reduced desire, making them hesitant to initiate intimacy again. The negative effects can cascade into other areas of the couple's life, eroding trust and communication.
Gendered expectations about sexual behavior contribute to how partners perceive rejection and its consequences, affecting individual well-being and relationship dynamics. Understanding these differences is crucial in addressing them effectively and supporting healthy relationships.
How do men and women perceive sexual rejection differently in committed partnerships, and what are the relational consequences?
Men tend to experience sexual rejection as a threat to their masculinity and self-worth (Löckenhoff et al. , 2018), while women often interpret it as an indicator of lacking attractiveness or personal value (Bleske & Buss, 1987). This difference in perception can have various relational consequences such as increased tension between partners, decreased trust and commitment, and potentially even infidelity if not addressed appropriately.