Mutual masturbation is one of the most underrated forms of intimacy, but it has many benefits that can enhance any relationship. It's a way to be vulnerable, to learn about your partner's pleasure, and to explore arousal without pressure or expectation. Watching your partner touch themselves can be deeply erotic, revealing their rhythms, breath, raw expression. It also removes performance anxiety, each person stays in their own body while sharing the experience together. It's not foreplay—it's a full experience. For couples in long-term relationships, mutual masturbation can reignite curiosity and play.
How to do mutual masturbation?
1. Discussion: Talk openly about your desires and boundaries. Agree on privacy, clothing, touch, eye contact, etc. Set a relaxed environment. Be honest about what you want, need, and feel. Share fantasies and turn-ons. Let go of shame and judgment.
2. Mood: Create a romantic atmosphere with candles, music, wine, massage oil, or lingerie. Don't rush, take time to focus on each other. Lay down side by side or face to face, touch hands, kiss, caress, and undress.
3. Stimulation: Start slow and sensual, rubbing, teasing, stroking, and using different techniques like fingering, penetration (if desired), vibrators, or sex toys. Explore sensations, try new positions, share feedback. Keep communication active. Be open to surprises and changes.
4. Orgasm: Focus on your partner's pleasure first, encourage them to express their arousal without pressure or expectation. Watch their reactions and responses, breathe together, enjoy intimacy, release. Mutual masturbation is about connection and intimacy, don't compare orgasms or judge each other.
5. Aftercare: Cuddle, hold hands, cuddle, talk about the experience. Express gratitude for your partner's presence, trust, and vulnerability. Reconnect emotionally before ending the session.
Mutual masturbation can improve relationships by fostering trust, respect, communication, and sexual exploration. It deepens intimacy, builds emotional safety, and opens up possibilities for more adventurous play. By connecting physically and emotionally, partners can explore themselves and each other in a safe and non-judgmental way.