The concept of fertility is central to many religions and belief systems, which often dictate how people view their sexual life, including its purpose and limitations. This article explores how these teachings can influence sexual motivation and perceived duty within marriage.
Many religious traditions consider children to be a blessing from God or a gift from Heaven, and therefore encourage couples to have them. In Islam, for example, Allah commands married couples to "reproduce" and "multiply". The Quran states that it is "a sacred duty", and that those who cannot procreate are cursed by God. Similar sentiments are expressed in Christianity, where the Bible states that Adam and Eve were commanded to "be fruitful and multiply" after they were expelled from Eden.
Some faiths also place restrictions on when and how often couples should engage in sexual activity.
Orthodox Jews are forbidden from having sex during certain times of the month, such as menstruation and pregnancy, while Catholics must abstain for nine days before ovulation. These rules are designed to ensure that conception occurs only at opportune moments, and to avoid temptation outside of marriage.
These teachings can have significant impacts on marital relationships. Couples may feel pressured to have more frequent sex in order to fulfill their procreative duties, even if they are not emotionally ready or comfortable with it. They may also experience guilt or shame if they do not meet these expectations, leading to feelings of failure or self-doubt.
The concept of fertility can shape attitudes towards non-procreative forms of sex, such as masturbation and homosexuality, which are sometimes viewed as sinful or immoral. This could lead to internalized stigma, fear of discovery, and self-loathing.
Religious teachings can also enhance sexual motivation within marriage. Many faiths emphasize the importance of intimacy between husband and wife, encouraging them to explore one another physically and spiritually. The Song of Songs, a book of the Old Testament, describes the joys of physical love, while Hinduism celebrates the union of man and woman through sacred rituals and symbols. Some traditions even view sex as a form of worship, whereby couples connect with God through their bodies.
Religious teachings on fertility and procreation can have complex and nuanced effects on sexual motivation and perceived duty within marriage. While some adherents may feel pressure to conform to strict rules, others may find comfort in spiritual and emotional support for their sexual lives.
Each person must navigate this dynamic according to their own beliefs and values.