How does bisexual identity complicate the concept of fidelity—not as physical exclusivity, but as emotional truthfulness and integrity?
Bisexual people often face stereotypes that suggest they are promiscuous or unfaithful in their relationships.
Bisexual individuals can be just as committed to monogamy as heterosexuals or homosexuals. They may have different attractions and desires, which does not automatically mean they will act on them. Bisexual identity refers to an individual's romantic, sexual, or affectional attraction to multiple genders, not just men and women, but it is also a social identity that shapes how others perceive and treat them. This leads to complicated questions about what it means to be faithful in a relationship. In this essay, I explore the complexity of bisexual identities in relation to fidelity, considering both physical and emotional aspects.
In order to understand bisexual identity and fidelity, one must consider definitions of both concepts. Fidelity is commonly understood as commitment to a partner or partners through loyalty, honesty, trustworthiness, and exclusivity. It involves emotional bonding, intimacy, and connection beyond physical closeness. Bisexual identity encompasses an individual's attraction to two or more genders, which may change over time. It includes biological, cultural, social, political, and psychological factors that shape one's experiences and expression. Bisexual individuals may identify with either gender or be attracted to both simultaneously. They may experience fluidity in their feelings and preferences. These complexities complicate the concept of fidelity because they suggest that bisexual people may be attracted to others outside of their primary relationship without necessarily engaging in physical acts.
Bisexual individuals face unique challenges in maintaining fidelity due to societal stigma and prejudice. Many assume that bisexual people are promiscuous or cheaters simply because of their orientation. As a result, they may feel pressure to hide their true selves or fear rejection from partners and society alike. This can lead to self-doubt, shame, and insecurity, making it difficult to build healthy relationships based on open communication and authenticity. Bisexual individuals may also struggle to find acceptance within LGBTQ+ communities due to homophobia and biphobia, leading them to seek connections elsewhere. All these factors make it harder for bisexual individuals to define themselves and their relationships clearly, further complicating the idea of fidelity.
Many bisexual people remain committed to monogamy and exclusivity despite these obstacles. They may prioritize trust, honesty, and loyalty above all else, valuing emotional intimacy and connection more than physical attraction. They may choose to focus on developing deep bonds with their partner rather than seeking sexual gratification outside of the relationship. Some bisexuals even consider monogamy as a political statement, rejecting the notion that bisexuals cannot be faithful or monogamous. Others may acknowledge their attractions but work to suppress them through therapy or spiritual practices. Still, others may find fulfillment in open relationships where they can explore multiple identities simultaneously without betraying their primary partner's trust.
Bisexual identity does not inherently equate to infidelity or unfaithfulness. Rather, it adds another layer of complexity to the concept of fidelity by emphasizing emotional truthfulness and integrity. Bisexual individuals must navigate societal stigma, internalized prejudice, and personal desires to create meaningful relationships built on mutual respect, love, and understanding. By acknowledging the nuances of bisexual identity, we can recognize that commitment is possible without sacrificing one's authentic self-expression.
How does bisexual identity complicate the concept of fidelity—not as physical exclusivity, but as emotional truthfulness and integrity?
Bisexuality is characterized by sexual attraction towards both men and women (or other gender identities). The term has been used since at least the 19th century, although historically it was not seen as positive or legitimate until recently. As a result, some people who identify as bisexual have faced discrimination and stigma throughout their lives.