Your Sexuality Is Not A Phase
If It Keeps Returning - Trust It
When you are young, it seems that all phases come back to haunt you. And so does your sexuality. Some things seem to be just fads; others turn out to be lifelong preferences. But what if one's sexuality appears to have returned after an absence? What if it feels like it keeps returning for no reason? What if it is always there but never recognized fully?
A phase can be defined as a temporary state of affairs. This means that something will eventually end and disappear. Something will go away.
If you feel like your sexuality has been coming back time and again, it may be more than a temporary phase. It might indicate that this aspect of your life should be explored further rather than dismissed as a passing fancy.
It takes time for people to figure themselves out sexually. Sometimes, they may find their way through trial and error, which includes trying out different types of partners, genres, positions, and activities until something clicks. If someone who experimented before settles into a relationship where they felt comfortable, then they may think their sexuality is set in stone. Yet if they continue to explore outside their comfort zone, they may realize that they still enjoy other things even though they don't want them now.
Sexuality can evolve over time or change with circumstances.
Some people may become more open-minded about certain fetishes later on because of trauma or heartbreak. Others may discover new ways to express themselves when they enter long-term relationships. Still, others may learn how to talk about intimacy better by talking openly with friends or partners about their desires. Whatever the case may be, if your sexuality keeps returning, trust it.
Our sexuality doesn't fit neatly into one box. We may have a preference for men and women, but we also love transgender individuals. Or we may be attracted to both cis and non-binary individuals. Our preferences do not always match up perfectly with society's expectations, either. We may enjoy certain acts but not others - such as BDSM or anal penetration. Or we may crave intimate moments but not like all forms of touching. This does not make us confused; it makes us unique.
When exploring your sexuality further, consider what you need from an intimate partner. Do you desire emotional connection? Physical attraction? Mutual respect? Sexual satisfaction? Maybe you require different types of pleasure than you thought you did before. It could involve roleplaying, power dynamics, kinky sex, or simple spooning. There are many possibilities. You should never feel ashamed or embarrassed about trying something new even if it seems strange to you. That is part of the journey to finding yourself sexually.
You must also realize that no one can tell you who you should be sexually attracted to. Your orientation or gender expression is your own business. No matter what other people say, their opinions don't change anything. You cannot be "forced" into a relationship, and you shouldn't settle for less than what you want in bed. People will try to pressure you into relationships based on societal norms, but remember: this isn't healthy for anyone involved. Don't let them convince you otherwise!
Don't forget that being comfortable with your sexuality is essential. If something feels right to you, pursue it wholeheartedly. But know when enough is enough; sometimes, too much information overloads our brains. Be selective about how often and where you engage with others sexually because over-sexualization can lead to burnout or shame. Most importantly, trust yourself - trust your instincts and intuition - rather than outside influences like social media or pornography.
If your sexuality keeps coming back despite efforts to suppress it, take it seriously. Explore it further without judgment or preconceived notions. What makes you feel sexy may surprise you, so embrace those desires openly. Trust yourself and accept all parts of yourself as they are now instead of how they were before.