Why sex toys are more popular among women than men (and how we can change that)

Most people have heard that men are less likely than women to use vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, or other sex toys during masturbation or partnered play. This is due to several reasons related to masculinity ideals and gender norms, as well as attitudes toward pleasure, arousal, and sexuality. First, many men are socialized from an early age to view their genitalia as the primary source of sexual pleasure for themselves and others. They may believe that they can achieve orgasm more effectively through self-stimulation rather than using toys, which could be seen as a sign of weakness or lack of virility. Additionally, men's bodies tend to produce semen during ejaculation, whereas women do not. Some men may fear that if they bring a sex toy into the bedroom, it will make them appear "unmanly" or emasculated in front of their partner, leading to feelings of shame and embarrassment. Second, some men feel that it's unnecessary or unnatural to rely on external stimulation when they have their own penis at hand. They might think that having a manhood means being able to provide sexual satisfaction without any help, even though this is clearly not always true. Some men also worry that using sex toys would mean admitting to feeling vulnerable or needy, or imply a lack of confidence in their ability to satisfy a partner. Third, there is still significant stigma around male masturbation and solo sex. Many men who explore their bodies privately may not want to admit that they use sex toys out of fear of appearing immature or perverted. For example, they may fear being judged by friends, family members, or co-workers for engaging in what they consider taboo behavior. This attitude can create a cycle where men hide their sexuality and avoid exploring new possibilities out of fear of judgment. Finally, many men are simply unaware of the vast range of sex toys available today. They may believe that vibrators and dildos are only for women, or associate them with pornography or fetishes rather than everyday pleasure. To break down these barriers, more education about sex toys needs to be provided in schools, families, and other settings. Men should be encouraged to discuss their fantasies openly with partners and try new things together. To sum up, men face several psychological hurdles when it comes to embracing sex toys as a normal part of sexual health and wellness. These include socialization, feelings of masculinity, attitudes toward sexuality, and concerns over judgment from others. Overcoming these challenges requires honest communication, self-acceptance, and the willingness to experiment and learn.