Bisexuals are often misunderstood by their partners who make assumptions about how they feel about sex. This can lead to relational tensions that bisexuals may have to deal with for years. In this article, I will explain why this happens and what can be done about it.
First, let's define "bisexual". It means being attracted to both men and women. Bisexuals don't necessarily want to have sex with both genders at once but might enjoy flirting with members of different genders. They also might be turned on by gender fluid people who identify as nonbinary or transgender. Sometimes, bisexuals date monosexuals - those who are only attracted to one gender. Other times, they date polysexuals - those who are attracted to more than two genders. Either way, there are misconceptions about what bisexuals want from a partner and how much they desire them.
One common mistake is assuming bisexuals are promiscuous and always seeking out threesomes or other types of group sex. Some bisexuals do like group encounters, but many prefer intimate moments with just one person. Another error is believing bisexuals must have sex with both genders in every relationship. That isn't true either; some bisexuals prioritize emotional connection over physical attraction when choosing a partner. Still, others only engage in same-sex activities occasionally or not at all.
Then, there are the assumptions about sexual identity. Many monosexuals think bisexuals are unsure of their orientation or constantly switching between identities. This leads them to question their partner's commitment and authenticity. In reality, most bisexuals know themselves well and aren't trying to confuse anyone. However, they may need time to explore different aspects of their sexuality without judgment.
Finally, bisexuals may feel pressured to choose one side if they are dating a monosexual partner. They may fear rejection if they reveal their true feelings about gender diversity. Yet, it can be challenging for monosexuals to accept that their partner desires multiple genders simultaneously. It might even make them feel threatened or insecure. Ultimately, communication is key to resolving these issues before they fester into resentment. Bisexuals should express their needs honestly and openly so their partners understand them better.
To sum up, bisexuals often face relational tension due to misconceptions about desire from their partners. These misunderstandings can stem from assuming they want more than one person, changing identities, or being polyamorous. Bisexuals who experience this tension should talk openly with their partners about what makes them happy in bed and outside it.