Throughout human history, societies have had an interest in how people express their sexuality. This fascination has led to various belief systems, laws, traditions, taboos, and cultures that dictate what is appropriate and desirable for individuals to engage in when it comes to sexual activity. While some cultures are more open than others regarding sex and sexual expression, there is still widespread stigma and shame attached to certain practices such as masturbation and non-monogamy. In recent years, however, this attitude has been changing due to greater acceptance of diversity and individual choice. Nowadays, many veterans feel comfortable exploring different aspects of their sexual identity without fear of judgment or condemnation from society.
Some veterans may choose to experiment with BDSM activities or explore their gender identity through cross-dressing or transvestism. The problem arises when these personal choices collide with broader social norms surrounding masculinity/femininity and military service.
Veterans who wish to pursue their sexual interests outside of traditional roles can experience feelings of guilt or inadequacy because they do not conform to dominant expectations about what constitutes a "real man" or "real woman." As a result, these veterans may find themselves struggling to reconcile their desire for intimacy with larger questions about their self-worth, which can lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and even suicidal thoughts. One study found that 21% of veterans report feeling guilty after participating in consensual acts like bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism (BDSM). This guilt is often based on the belief that engaging in such activities makes them less deserving of respect or love from family members, friends, coworkers, etc. Similarly, transgender veterans may face pressure to adhere to strict gender norms while still attempting to express their authentic selves sexually, leading to confusion and frustration.
It's clear that the intersection between sexuality and identity is complex and fraught with potential conflicts for many individuals in our society - particularly those who have served in the armed forces.
How do feelings of inadequacy or guilt about sexual performance intersect with broader identity struggles among veterans?
Inadequacy and guilt related to sexual performance can be particularly difficult for many veterans due to broader identity struggles they may face after military service. Many individuals struggle with transitioning back into civilian life and adapting to new roles and relationships outside of the military, which can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.