Sexual fantasies are thoughts, images, feelings, or behaviors that people have during masturbation or while imagining being with a partner. These fantasies can be based on real-life experiences, or they can be completely different from them. Sexual fantasies often involve desires and scenarios that are not realistic or achievable in real life. They may be about activities that are taboo, illegal, or socially unacceptable. Fantasies can also include nonhuman partners, such as animals, robots, or fictional characters. Some people like to roleplay their fantasies during sex, while others prefer keeping them private.
Real-life sexual experiences are physical interactions between two or more individuals, typically involving genitals, but they can also include touching, kissing, and other intimate acts. In some cases, real-life experiences may be similar to what is depicted in sexual fantasies, while in others they may differ significantly. The frequency and intensity of these experiences vary greatly among individuals.
Relational expectations refer to the anticipated nature and characteristics of a relationship. This includes things like the type of communication, level of commitment, and how much time and effort each person is willing to invest. Relational expectations can influence the type of sexual experiences someone seeks out or enjoys, as well as their attitudes toward fantasy and intimacy.
If someone expects a monogamous relationship, they may feel guilty or anxious about having sexual fantasies about multiple partners.
Sexual fantasies can interact with real-life sexual experiences and relational expectations in various ways.
Someone who has a fantasy about being dominated may seek out a partner who is dominant in real life, even if they have never experienced this before. On the other hand, someone who has no interest in domination might find it difficult to act on their fantasy because of social stigma or lack of experience. Likewise, someone who wants an open relationship may use fantasies as a way to explore new experiences without actually acting on them.
People whose relational expectations do not align with their fantasies may choose to avoid discussing them altogether or risk hurting their partner's feelings by sharing them.
How do sexual fantasies interact with real-life sexual experiences and relational expectations?
Sexual fantasies can have several effects on both real-life sexual experiences and relational expectations. Firstly, they serve as a means of exploring different possibilities for one's sexuality, including trying out new positions or scenarios that are not available in reality. This can make real-life experiences more enjoyable and satisfying by introducing novelty into them.