The study of human sexual behavior is an extensive field that explores various aspects of human sexuality and how it affects individuals. It includes physical and psychological attributes that define sexual attraction, desire, and expression. Sexual behavior encompasses all forms of physiologically mediated interactions between people involving genital stimulation, including masturbation, kissing, intercourse, foreplay, oral sex, etc.
Researchers have also found significant overlap between mental processes such as fantasy and actual behaviors. Thus, many studies investigate the relationship between sexual fantasies and real-life sexual behavior to explore their influence on relational negotiation.
Sexual Fantasies
Sexual fantasies are a form of imaginative experience involving sexually explicit thoughts, ideas, images, or scenarios that can occur during waking hours or sleep. These erotic thoughts help people cope with emotional stressors and reduce anxiety levels. While some people may think of themselves as passive participants in these fantasies, others prefer being active protagonists. Some individuals might imagine themselves having multiple partners simultaneously while others focus more on particular body parts or acts like group sex, fetishism, roleplay, and domination/submission. The frequency of fantasizing varies from person to person, ranging from once a month to several times daily.
Influence on Real-Life Behavior
Research indicates that sexual fantasies influence real-life behavior by influencing libido (sex drive) and arousal level. A study by Dr. Justin Lehmiller found that men who watched pornography and had frequent sexual fantasies had higher sexual arousal than those without. Another study by Dr. Zhana Vrangalova discovered that women who engaged in partnered sexual activities reported higher sexual desire after viewing erotic stimuli compared to those who did not. Such findings imply that sexual fantasies increase sexual interest and motivation towards physical intimacy.
Individuals who frequently engage in masturbation report increased sexual satisfaction due to better self-esteem regarding their bodies and increased confidence. Thus, one's sexual desires and actions are influenced by the intensity of their fantasy life.
Influence on Relational Negotiation
Relationship negotiation is a process whereby couples discuss and agree upon rules governing various aspects of their relationship, including communication, conflict resolution, time management, financial responsibility, etc. Researchers have found a strong correlation between sexual fantasies and relational negotiations, as they play an essential role in understanding each other's wants, needs, and desires. Couples who share similar interests tend to have more fulfilling relationships with fewer disagreements. They can also explore such interests together during sex or create opportunities for experimentation outside the bedroom. On the contrary, couples with conflicting fantasies may experience sexual dissatisfaction leading to infidelity and separation. Therefore, open communication about sexual preferences helps avoid misunderstandings and misinterpretations that could harm the relationship.
Research shows that sexual fantasies influence real-life behavior and relational negotiations positively. By sharing these thoughts, couples understand each other better and can explore them physically and emotionally.
Differences in fantasies should be addressed early in the relationship to prevent problems later. Individuals should not judge themselves based on their fantasies but accept them as part of their human nature.
Healthy sexual activity improves intimacy and strengthens bonds within relationships.
How do sexual fantasies influence real-life sexual behavior and relational negotiation?
Sexual fantasies are often thought of as an escape from reality, but recent studies have shown that they can actually influence real-life sexual behavior and relational negotiation. According to research conducted by Dr. Smith (2019), people who engage in frequent sexual fantasizing tend to be more sexually assertive and adventurous than those who don't.