The couple's physical relationship is an essential part of their emotional connection. It may be affected by many factors such as health, communication, trust, time spent together, mutual respect, etc. Long-term stress can make it even harder to keep that bond strong. In times of crisis, some couples seek comfort in each other while others struggle to find it. There are several ways to preserve intimacy under pressure without compromising physical and mental wellbeing.
Prioritize each other above all else. Stress can make people selfish, demanding, anxious, angry, or unpredictable. It is crucial for both partners to put the needs of the other ahead of their own, including emotional and physical ones. This requires listening, empathy, and understanding. It means putting up with frustration, criticism, irritation, etc., but also recognizing when things go too far. Making an effort to support each other will help them feel supported and appreciated.
Talk about what you want from the relationship and how you want to achieve it. Couples tend to get stuck in old patterns, which might no longer serve them.
One partner might try to avoid conflict or resentment while the other wants more openness. Talking about these issues early on prevents misunderstandings and anger later on. Also, ask for advice or help if needed from friends, family members, a therapist, or other professionals.
Plan ahead for fun activities together, whether they involve sex or not. Going out, cooking together, watching movies, taking walks, playing games, or talking about non-stressful topics can be great distractions. These experiences should be planned rather than spontaneous because stress tends to prevent spontaneity. They can provide a break from daily worries while reconnecting as a couple. If children are involved, include them in such plans, keeping in mind their age group and interests. This way, parents can spend quality time with kids and themselves without feeling guilty about neglecting them.
Fourth, express appreciation regularly by using words like "I love you," "Thank you," "You look nice today," "That was delicious dinner," "It's good to see you again," "I missed you," "You did a great job" (especially during challenging times), etc. It is important to acknowledge that your partner has been there for you through thick and thin. Express gratitude even when things are tough - it shows respect and empathy.
Create a safe space where both partners feel comfortable sharing vulnerabilities and weaknesses. Long-term stress can make people more irritable, impatient, depressed, anxious, etc. It might also worsen preexisting mental conditions. Sharing these feelings helps the other understand what one is going through and how best to support them. It creates a sense of closeness and strengthens the bond between them. If necessary, seek professional help immediately.
Couples who prioritize each other, communicate openly, plan fun activities together, express appreciation often, and share their vulnerabilities will experience less conflict or resentment. In turn, they maintain intimacy despite long-term stress exposure, ensuring that their relationship remains strong and healthy.
How do couples protect intimacy during long-term stress exposure?
Intimate relationships can be a source of comfort and strength during times of prolonged stress, but they also need care and attention to thrive over time. One important factor that helps couples maintain intimacy is communication. When two people share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences openly and honestly with each other, it creates a bond of trust and understanding that can help them weather difficult situations together.