Fifty years ago, it was a common belief that after marriage, men would lose interest in their wives, who became housekeepers and mothers. Women were expected to be submissive and obedient while men pursued careers and personal interests. In fact, many women complained about this arrangement, which left them feeling unappreciated and neglected. Today, things have changed dramatically for couples. Many more marriages are equal partnerships where both spouses work outside the home and share household chores.
There is still one area where many couples struggle—maintaining physical connection and intimacy after children arrive. As people age, they may become less interested in physical contact due to health issues, medications, stressful jobs, or other factors. This can lead to feelings of resentment and disconnection between partners who want to remain physically close but don't know how.
To maintain sexual relevance and connection as bodies change, couples must be creative and open to exploration. They should find ways to keep the spark alive even when physical desire fades. This might mean experimenting with different positions, role-playing, trying new sex toys, or simply cuddling in bed. It's important to discuss what works best for each partner and to listen to their needs. Couples should also make time for romantic dates and other activities that foster emotional closeness.
One way to stay connected is to learn from others who have maintained a strong relationship over time. Some older couples report that they still enjoy physical touch and even have regular sex, despite medical conditions such as heart disease or arthritis. Others say they have found new ways to show affection, like holding hands, massaging each other, or just being present during quiet moments together.
Couples need to communicate and adapt to maintain sexual relevance and connection throughout their lives. While this may not always be easy, it is essential for a happy marriage. With patience, understanding, and a willingness to try new things, any couple can preserve their physical bond and continue to grow closer emotionally.
53. How do couples maintain sexual relevance and connection as physical bodies and sexual functioning change with age?
As people age, their physical abilities and sexual functions may decline which can lead to changes in sexual intimacy within relationships. Maintaining sexual relevance and connection requires open communication, creativity, and willingness to experiment. Couples should explore different types of intimacy, such as non-physical touches, sensual massages, sharing fantasies, and role-playing.