Some people are demisexual—they experience sexual attraction only after forming an emotional bond. It is a sexual orientation wherein individuals do not feel sexual attraction to someone until they have formed an emotional connection with them. This means that physical appearance does not matter when it comes to sexual desire. Demisexuals typically feel attracted to their partners based on their personality traits, values, shared beliefs, and mutual respect. They may be romantic, but unlike most heterosexual couples, they find it difficult to initiate physical contact due to the lack of sexual desire. The term 'demi' implies half, implying that these individuals experience sex in halves – one half being love while the other is purely physical. This concept was first coined in 2006 by a user named "Allosexual" on an online forum called AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network), which caters to those who identify as asexual or otherwise non-heterosexual. Since then, it has gained popularity among some subgroups of asexual communities. While there are no official statistics on how many people identify as demisexual, it is estimated that about 1% of the population falls into this category.
The difference between demisexuals and others lies in their approach towards intimacy and relationships. Unlike others, they cannot fall for just anyone; instead, they need to build up trust and closeness before they can experience any feelings of intimacy. Sexual attraction occurs only if they develop strong emotional bonds with their partners. Therefore, demisexuals tend to take their time getting involved in relationships since building emotional intimacy takes time and patience. It also makes them more selective about whom they choose to be intimate with. Apart from not experiencing sexual urges, they do not feel aroused until they have formed a deep emotional bond with someone. Demisexuals might never experience orgasms without being in love because they cannot get turned on unless they have established a strong connection with their partner. Some even argue that they are asexual but not entirely so.
People may question why such individuals would be interested in romance if they don't have a sexual drive. However, they see romantic relationships as a way to share life experiences, rather than seeking physical pleasure. They enjoy cuddling and hugging but usually refrain from touching during sex due to lack of desire. This does not mean they are averse to having sexual relations—they still find themselves attracted to their partners once an emotional attachment has been made. While they may feel the urge to connect physically at some point, they avoid initiating it unless there is a genuine reason. They may indulge in sexual activities to please their partners or explore their own boundaries. For instance, demisexuals may engage in kisses or make-out sessions when they want to show affection for their partners but not necessarily seek sexual fulfillment.
It is essential to note that the term 'demisexuality' should not be confused with 'asexuality,' which refers to people who experience no sexual attraction or interest towards anyone regardless of gender. Demisexuals can still become aroused by sexual images and stimulation; however, they need an emotional connection before they can achieve sexual satisfaction. Their libido differs from others, but that doesn't mean that they do not wish to pursue romantic relationships or get married. In fact, many demisexuals are happy in their marriages because their spouses understand them well enough to accept their limitations. Some demisexuals also believe that romance is about more than just sex – it is about sharing love and intimacy between two individuals who care deeply about each other. It is all about finding someone you truly connect with emotionally and forming a strong bond with them.