Consent Guardians Provide Oversight
Some kink community events designate a "consent guardian"—a neutral person to watch, support, and intervene if consent is at risk. These roles were designed for accountability, but they are also often underutilized due to a lack of clear understanding about their responsibilities. A recent survey of KinkFest attendees found that most people do not know what to expect from a Consent Guardian's role. Some confusion stems from how many different versions exist across groups. In this article, we will explain what a Consent Guardian does, why it matters, and when you might need one.
A Consent Guardian serves as an impartial observer during scenes that involve unusual risks or intense play. They can be any gender identity, relationship status, or experience level. Their job is to monitor interactions closely and keep track of the mental state of participants. If someone seems uncomfortable, confused, upset, distressed, or scared, a Consent Guardian may intervene, pause the scene, or call emergency medical services. They help enforce boundaries while keeping things fun and safe.
Why Are Consent Guardians Important?
Kinky activities include bondage, discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism (BDSM), erotic hypnosis, and other types of power dynamics. While these pursuits are consensual, there are still inherent dangers like overstimulation, trauma triggers, injury, panic attacks, and miscommunication. Consent Guardians reduce harm by monitoring situations and preventing misunderstandings before they occur. When conflicts arise, they step in and assist participants with resolutions.
When Do You Need a Consent Guardian?
Consent Guardians are required for some BDSM activities and events—like suspension bondage, breath control, sounding, whipping, sensory deprivation, knife play, and fire-play. Some parties require them for all activities. Most major kink events have guidelines on their websites detailing requirements and responsibilities. Even if your event doesn't mandate one, it's wise to have at least two people present who can serve as safety monitors. At least one should not be involved in any active scenes.
How Can I Become a Consent Guardian?
While anyone can volunteer, training is essential. Attend educational workshops and classes about consent, communication, crisis intervention, and emergency care. Learn how to recognize when someone needs assistance and what steps to take. Know how to respond to medical emergencies without causing further harm or panic. Learn how to deescalate tense situations and help conflicting individuals reach compromises. Work closely with event organizers to learn local policies, procedures, and resources.