Public Kink Etiquette Is a Thing
In public or semi-public kink-friendly spaces (like clubs or play parties), etiquette is vital, and there are unwritten rules you need to follow to be welcomed back. You might think that a BDSM play party means everyone can do whatever they want, but it's important to remember that this isn't true. While there may be less boundaries than at an event like a dinner party, consent is still key, and everyone needs to feel comfortable exploring their desires safely. So what exactly does that mean? And how can you make sure you're being respectful to others? Here are some guidelines for proper kink etiquette in public spaces.
1. Ask Before Touching Someone Else's Body
Even if it seems obvious what someone wants or doesn't want, always ask before touching them! It can be tempting to reach out to pet someone or grab them during a scene, but just because they're naked doesn't mean they want your hands on them. Always ask first, and accept their answer gracefully even if it's no.
2. Respect Consent At All Times
Respecting a person's physical and emotional boundaries is crucial when engaging with them. This includes asking before hugging, kissing, spanking, or taking off clothes. If someone says "no" to something you suggest, don't push the issue or try to change their mind. Instead, thank them for their response and move on.
3. Don't Interrupt A Scene Without Permission
When you see a couple engaged in play, resist the urge to interrupt and ask questions. It can be exciting to watch other people have fun, but remember that what they're doing is private and intimate between the two of them. If you need to get their attention for any reason, wait until they've finished and approach calmly and politely.
4. Don't Use Flash Photography
It might seem like taking pictures would be harmless, but flash photography can ruin a moment and make people feel violated. Remember to turn off your camera's flash function or put away your phone entirely while attending kink events. You wouldn't walk into a restaurant and start snapping photos of strangers, so why should you do this at an event?
5. Be Mindful Of Space
Even though there may not be walls around each scene, respect everyone's space. Keep your distance from others who are engaged unless invited closer, and never touch anyone without permission. Also, be mindful of noise levels and loud conversations - some people might want to focus on their partner rather than chat with you.
6. Respect Privacy & Confidentiality
Keep things private when playing or talking about kinky activities. That means no sharing details about other people's scenes, relationships, or identities without explicit consent. This helps protect everyone's privacy as well as avoid potential drama down the road.
By following these simple guidelines, you can ensure a safe, comfortable, and welcoming atmosphere for all. Public spaces are meant to allow us to explore our desires safely in community with others, and etiquette helps us do just that. Remember to ask before touching someone else, respect consent, and keep personal details private.