Ethical communities screen new members
Communities of people who share similar interests often form around those interests, whether it be knitting, bird watching, or martial arts. Sometimes these communities have a code of ethics that they follow, which may include rules about how members treat each other and behave within their community. One such community is BDSM, where some groups require potential members to undergo a process called "vetting" before being admitted into their group. This process can involve anything from background checks to interviews to orientations, all aimed at ensuring that everyone is on the same page when it comes to consent and safety.
The main reason for vetting new members is to reduce risk, preserve consent culture, and maintain safety and shared values—especially in tight or public scenes. In public play spaces like dungeons or parties, it's important to ensure that no one feels unsafe or violated due to a lack of communication or respect. Vetting also helps create a sense of trust between members, as they know that everyone has gone through the same process and understands what is expected of them. It allows members to identify any red flags early on and address them proactively, rather than waiting until something goes wrong.
Vetting processes can vary depending on the community, but they typically involve an interview with current members and/or leadership. Some communities may ask prospective members to complete a written questionnaire first, followed by an in-person interview. Others may ask potential members to attend multiple orientation sessions before being fully accepted into the group. The goal is always to make sure that everyone understands the community's expectations and boundaries. For example, some BDSM communities may require members to sign a consent form agreeing not to engage in non-consensual activities or to share identifying information about other members outside of the group.
While vetting can be time-consuming and intimidating, it ultimately serves an important purpose: creating a safe and inclusive space where everyone can feel comfortable exploring their sexuality without fear of harm. By screening new members, communities can protect themselves and each other from dangerous situations and promote healthy relationships within their group.