Bisexual Identity
Bisexuality is defined as being attracted to both men and women. It involves having romantic, emotional, and/or sexual feelings towards members of multiple genders. Bisexual individuals may have experiences that include same-sex and opposite-sex attractions, fantasies, behaviors, or relationships at different times throughout their lives. Some bisexuals prefer monogamy while others are polyamorous.
Biphobia, bi-erasure, and bi-invisibility can contribute to shame, self-doubt, and internalized homophobia among bisexual people. Navigating societal expectations for exclusivity or promiscuity can cause conflict between personal desires and social norms.
Multiplicity of Selfhood
The concept of multiplicity refers to the idea that an individual has many different aspects to their identity.
One may identify as queer, but also be part of another minority group such as race, gender, religion, or disability. This creates unique challenges when it comes to navigating relationships and interactions in society. Bisexual individuals often feel like they must choose between expressing one aspect of themselves or suppressing other parts of their identity due to discrimination or marginalization. This tension can lead to feeling split, fragmented, or compartmentalized.
Desire for Social and Relational Coherence
Social coherence means that a person's external reality matches their internal sense of self. In terms of relationships, this could mean finding someone who shares similar values, beliefs, and interests. Relational coherence involves having a consistent sense of oneself across various contexts and relationships.
If one is bisexual, they might experience confusion about how to present themselves in public versus private settings or with different partners. They may worry about being judged, misunderstood, or experiencing prejudice from others.
Ethical Considerations
Bisexual individuals can navigate these tensions by honoring and exploring all aspects of their identities without feeling shame or guilt. This includes acknowledging and accepting past experiences, current attraction patterns, and future possibilities. It involves communicating openly and honestly with partners about desires and boundaries. Creating a support system of friends, family members, or therapists can help build resilience against biphobia and bi-invisibility. Seeking out bisexual-friendly communities or events can provide validation, connection, and resources.
In what ways can bisexual individuals ethically navigate the tensions between multiplicity of selfhood and the desire for social and relational coherence?
Bisexual people may face various pressures and difficulties regarding their identity as they experience multiple forms of oppression based on gender and sexuality. One example is the challenge of living up to different expectations from both heterosexuals and homosexuals. Another difficulty is the need to be constantly validating one's identity to others who often question it.