The idea that sexual activity is the sole purpose of a relationship between romantic partners has been debunked for many years now. Instead, it has become more acceptable to suggest that there are several reasons behind the act. It would be wrong to assume that sex alone is the glue binding two people together. While sex may keep them together, emotional and psychological factors also play significant roles in keeping the relationship going. In addition, research shows that sexual experimentation can have an impact on intimacy and relational safety within committed partnerships.
Sexual experimentation refers to attempting something new in terms of sexual experiences. Most couples will go through this phase at some point when they feel bored or want to try different things.
It should not interfere with the existing commitment between them. Here's how you can balance novelty, ethics, and relational safety while having fun during sexual experimentation.
Ensure your partner is open to such ideas. Before suggesting anything out of the ordinary, ask your partner if they are willing to do so. If your partner is hesitant, take time to explain why you want to try something else. You may need to convince them by explaining how safe and enjoyable it could be.
Note that not all ideas work for everyone. Therefore, don't force any idea down their throat.
Set boundaries beforehand. A lack of boundaries can lead to resentment and feelings of betrayal when someone tries something you didn't agree to try. Setting boundaries makes sure that both parties understand what they are getting themselves into before trying something else. It is necessary to define what is considered cheating and limits for each other. Set a rule that whatever happens behind closed doors stays there.
Consider using protection. Engaging in unprotected sex could expose one partner to an STD. Ensure that you use condoms, dental dams, gloves, or other contraceptive measures to avoid this risk. This step is crucial for those who engage in group sex, anal play, and other kinky activities.
Fourth, communication is vital. Couples must communicate frequently about everything, including what they would like to try next. Communication makes it easy for partners to express what they want without embarrassment and make suggestions on what they would also like to try. You should talk about what turns you on, what scares you, and what has worked previously.
Keep it fun. Sexual experimentation shouldn't stress couples. Instead, it should improve their intimacy. Do not judge yourselves if something doesn't go as planned or expected. Try new things regularly to create excitement between the two of you.
How can sexual experimentation within committed partnerships balance novelty, ethics, and relational safety?
The desire for novelty is a common human impulse that may be expressed in different ways, including sexual experimentation with one's partner. While such experimentation can enhance relational intimacy and excitement, it also presents challenges regarding ethical considerations and risks related to health and safety. Balancing these factors requires mindful communication, openness, and mutual respect between partners.