Sexual agency is an individual's ability to make decisions about their own sexual activity and sexual behavior. It involves having control over one's body, being comfortable expressing desires, understanding one's boundaries, and feeling confident enough to communicate those boundaries to others. Adolescence is a time when young people are beginning to develop their sexuality and form ideas about their identity. Family discussions about sexuality can greatly impact how adolescents view themselves as sexual beings and how they interact with others.
When parents and guardians talk openly and honestly with their children about sexuality, it creates a safe environment for them to explore and learn. Children who feel comfortable asking questions and getting accurate answers are more likely to have positive attitudes towards sex and be able to make informed choices later in life. Parents should avoid shaming or scaring their kids but instead provide factual education about different aspects of sexuality such as contraception, STIs, and consent.
Families should promote healthy communication habits so that children know how to ask for what they want and negotiate for safety during interactions with peers.
If family members do not talk candidly about sexuality, adolescents may feel ashamed or embarrassed. They may lack information and knowledge about topics like puberty, pregnancy prevention, or dating relationships. This can lead to feelings of isolation and confusion which could make them vulnerable to abuse or exploitation. If teens do not have clear boundaries set by caregivers, they may feel pressure from partners or friends to engage in activities that make them uncomfortable. Without role models or guidance from trusted adults, they may struggle with self-esteem issues related to body image or intimacy skills.
Family discussions of sexuality can either empower or hinder adolescent agency depending on how those conversations take place. When done correctly, these talks can help young people develop confidence in their own decisions while teaching them vital lessons on responsible behavior. Conversely, failing to address sexuality at all can leave young people feeling confused or unsure of themselves when faced with challenging situations down the line.
How do family discussions of sexuality influence adolescent sexual agency and confidence?
Family conversations about sex can be instrumental in cultivating teenagers' self-esteem and confidence. According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy (2018), family chats regarding sexuality have been associated with increased adolescents' awareness and knowledge of their rights as well as enhanced communication abilities on sexual matters.