Performative Digital Arguments and Erotic Undercurrents
By Dr. Sarah Johnson, Ph.D., Psychologist
There has been a dramatic increase in the amount of time people spend on their phones and computers, communicating through social media, messaging apps, email, and video calls. This increased communication is having significant effects on interpersonal dynamics, particularly between romantic partners. One interesting phenomenon that has emerged from this shift is the performative nature of digital arguing. Performative arguments occur when couples argue about something trivial or insignificant in order to create drama or attention for themselves, often using sarcasm or exaggeration to make their point. While these types of arguments may seem harmless, they can actually have serious consequences on the couple's overall level of intimacy and eroticism.
One way that performative arguments can affect intimacy is by creating a sense of distance between partners. When arguments are performed rather than based on actual issues, it becomes difficult for the partners to connect on a deeper level and establish trust. This lack of connection can lead to a loss of intimacy and, ultimately, sexual desire. Another way that performing can impact erotic undercurrents is by causing resentment between partners. If one partner feels like they are constantly being put down or criticized in an argument, they may begin to feel less connected to their partner and more distant emotionally.
If arguments become repetitive or stale, they can start to lose their emotional charge, which can also negatively impact the couple's sex life.
There are several ways that couples can avoid falling into the trap of performative arguing and maintain healthy levels of intimacy and eroticism. Firstly, they should try to focus on discussing genuine issues that matter to both parties. Avoiding arguments altogether isn't necessarily the solution, but instead focusing on addressing real problems can help keep the relationship feeling authentic and connected. Secondly, taking breaks from digital communication during times of stress or conflict can be helpful in resetting the dynamic and allowing for more honest conversations.
Practicing self-care and spending time apart when needed can help reduce feelings of resentment and enable partners to reconnect when they return together.
While performative arguing might seem like harmless fun, it can actually have serious consequences on a couple's intimacy and eroticism. By focusing on addressing real issues and practicing good communication habits, couples can maintain a strong bond and keep their relationship exciting over time.
How does the performative nature of digital arguing affect the erotic undercurrents between partners?
Due to its performative nature, digital arguing can heighten sexual tension among partners by creating an environment where they are able to express their desires and needs more freely than they would in real life. This is because digital communication allows for greater anonymity and enables individuals to be more open with their thoughts and feelings.