Sexual Responsiveness, Desire, and Emotional Availability After Trauma
The ability to respond sexually to stimuli, express desires, and show emotional availability are all affected by traumatic events such as physical and/or psychological abuse. Partners who have experienced trauma may experience a wide range of changes in these areas that can impact their relationships. This article will discuss how partners adapt to these changes and how they can work through them with their partner.
Changes in Sexual Responsiveness after Trauma
Trauma can cause changes in an individual's responsiveness to sexual stimuli, which can lead to difficulties in intimate relations.
Someone who has been physically or emotionally abused may find it difficult to become aroused during sex due to fear or anxiety. They may also be less likely to engage in certain types of activities or positions due to feelings of shame or embarrassment.
Individuals may experience physical pain or discomfort during sex due to injuries sustained from the traumatic event. Partners may need to be patient and understanding when working through these issues, and communication is key in order to determine what is causing the changes. Some couples may choose to explore different techniques or positions to overcome these challenges.
Changes in Desire After Trauma
After experiencing trauma, some people may lose interest in sex altogether, while others may feel an increased desire for sex. These changes can be caused by a variety of factors, including but not limited to: depression, anxiety, PTSD symptoms, guilt, shame, fear, and anger. In some cases, the victim may feel guilty about their desire for sex after trauma and this can create tension within the relationship. It is important for both partners to communicate openly and honestly about these feelings and work together to find solutions that are mutually acceptable.
Changes in Emotional Availability
Emotional availability refers to the ability to share one's thoughts, feelings, and emotions with another person. This is often affected by trauma as victims may struggle to express themselves freely out of fear of rejection or judgment. Victims may also have difficulty connecting emotionally with their partner because they feel detached from them emotionally. Couples should work together to establish trust and safety in order to build stronger bonds and improve emotional intimacy.
Strategies for Adapting to Changes
There are several strategies that couples can use to adapt to these changes and strengthen their relationships. One strategy is to focus on non-sexual activities such as cuddling, massage, or holding hands. Another strategy is to engage in sexual activities outside of the bedroom, such as kissing or touching.
Couples can try different techniques during sex, explore new positions, or incorporate role play into their routines. Partners should also practice self-care, which includes exercise, healthy eating, stress management, and therapy if needed. Communication and patience are key elements when working through these issues.
How do partners adapt to trauma-related changes in sexual responsiveness, desire, or emotional availability?
Traumatic experiences can have profound effects on an individual's sexuality and intimacy. Individuals may experience changes in their sexual responsiveness, desire, or emotional availability due to trauma-related stressors such as PTSD (posttraumatic stress disorder), depression, or anxiety. Partners of these individuals are likely to notice these changes and must find ways to adapt accordingly to maintain healthy relationships.