Masculine and feminine are gender roles that are often prescribed to men and women respectively based on their biological sex. However, these societal expectations can cause sexual anxiety for both genders because they limit how they express themselves sexually. These expectations also promote gender stereotypes which perpetuate discrimination against individuals who fail to meet them.
For instance, in many cultures, masculine traits such as strength, dominance, aggression, and stoicism are expected of males while femininity is associated with weakness, submissiveness, and vulnerability. This makes it difficult for men to be open about their emotions and seek help when needed, leading to feelings of inadequacy and fear of rejection from others. Women may feel pressured into being passive and dependent on their partners, causing confusion and frustration during intimate encounters. The pressure to conform can lead to performance anxiety and self-doubt, particularly if there is little experience or communication between partners.
Moreover, heteronormative expectations dictate that men must initiate sex and females should respond. Men may feel anxious if they don't live up to this standard, leading to feelings of guilt and shame. Females may feel pressured to perform and may worry about their partner's reaction if they do not reciprocate immediately. Heterosexuality is also promoted as normal, leaving queer people feeling isolated and confused about their desires.
Furthermore, the patriarchal society promotes a power dynamic where men have more control over decision-making processes than women. This often leads to men dominating the bedroom too, which can make sexual interactions uncomfortable or even abusive for some women. When women express desire outside of these norms, they risk being labeled as "loose" or promiscuous. On the other hand, men who enjoy dominant or submissive roles in bed may face societal stigma, making them afraid to explore their interests.
In conclusion, gendered expectations create sexual anxieties by limiting individual expression and forcing people to fit into rigid categories. Acknowledging diverse expressions of masculinity and femininity would allow individuals to explore sexuality with confidence and without fear.