Not All Dominants Are Sadists
Many people have an idea that BDSM is all about dominating someone else, inflicting them with pain, humiliation, or both. While there is certainly some truth to this, it's not the whole story. In fact, many dominants don't enjoy causing others pain at all - they simply like having control and exercising authority. This may come as a surprise to many, but it's true! Not all dominants are sadists.
So what does being a dominant mean? It's all about having power over another person. Some dominants prefer obedience, structure, or emotional power rather than physical intensity. They might want their submissive partner to do things for them, follow orders, or simply adhere to their rules and boundaries. The key difference between a dominant and a sadist is that the former doesn't necessarily get pleasure from causing pain; they may simply enjoy the sensation of controlling someone else.
That being said, not every dominant enjoys pain play either. Many Doms find other ways to exercise their authority, such as through verbal abuse or humiliation. They may also choose to take charge in different areas, such as finances or decision making. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule - some dominants do enjoy causing their partners discomfort during playtime. But it's important to remember that it isn't the norm.
It's also worth noting that not all submissives are masochists. A submissive is someone who surrenders control to another person and allows themselves to be taken care of in return. Submission can be a powerful experience for both parties involved, regardless of whether pain or humiliation is involved. Some subs love being physically restrained, spanked, or otherwise punished - but others don't. In fact, many just want to please their Dom and experience the rush of submission without any pain at all.
The bottom line is that BDSM is a wide-ranging and diverse practice with many nuances. Not everyone who engages in it fits into neat categories like "dominant" and "submissive." It's essential to remember this when discussing BDSM with friends, family members, or even potential partners. Don't assume that everyone wants the same thing out of the experience - each individual has unique desires and boundaries.
Remember: not all dominants are sadists!