Scholars have begun to explore how shared traumatic experiences can impact the way that individuals form relationships and express their sexuality. One specific group that has been studied extensively is military couples, who often experience high levels of stress during deployment and may struggle to maintain healthy communication upon return home. This paper will examine how shared trauma shapes patterns of sexual expression, emotional dependence, and relational trust among military partners. Specifically, it will consider how trauma affects the ways in which partners communicate about sex, develop sexual attraction, and build trust in their relationship.
Sexual Expression
One of the most significant effects of shared trauma on military couples' sexual expression is an increased focus on physical pleasure. When faced with fear or danger, individuals tend to seek out activities that provide a sense of safety and security, such as engaging in intimate acts like cuddling or kissing.
This shift towards more 'bodily' expressions of affection can also lead to a decrease in emotional connection and vulnerability between partners.
Some studies have found that military spouses are more likely to prioritize sexual pleasure than emotional closeness when reconnecting after deployment (Goldberg et al., 2017).
Emotional Dependence
Another aspect of shared trauma that can impact military couples' sexual expression is a heightened need for emotional support. When individuals feel isolated or disconnected from their partner, they may become emotionally dependent on them for comfort and validation. This can manifest itself in various ways, including seeking reassurance through physical touch or demanding attention from their partner during sexual encounters.
Some research suggests that shared trauma can increase feelings of intimacy, leading couples to rely more heavily on one another for support and stability (Morgan & Vishnevetsky, 2019).
Relational Trust
Shared trauma can also impact the way that military partners approach relational trust. In particular, partners who experience high levels of anxiety or distrust may struggle to communicate effectively about their needs and desires, which can create tension within the relationship. Conversely, those who feel secure and supported by their partner may be more open and honest about their thoughts and feelings, even during difficult conversations about sex and intimacy.
It appears that shared trauma can both enhance and hinder patterns of sexual expression, emotional dependence, and relational trust among military partners, depending on how each individual copes with stress and uncertainty.
How does shared trauma shape patterns of sexual expression, emotional dependence, and relational trust among military partners?
Military partners who have experienced shared trauma may develop unique patterns of sexual expression, emotional dependence, and relational trust that are shaped by their experiences together. The development of these patterns can be influenced by factors such as combat stress, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and other mental health issues that are common in those with military experience.