Internalized monosexism is an attitude or belief system that assumes heterosexuality to be superior or more desirable than homo/bisexuality. It can lead to negative self-perception and difficulties in relational decision-making for individuals who identify as LGBTQIA+. This article will explore how this phenomenon works and its potential harmful effects.
What is internalized monosexism?
Internalized monosexism is a form of socialization wherein individuals learn to view heterosexuality as superior or preferable to other sexual orientations. The term was coined by Dr. Emily Nagoski in her book 'Come As You Are' and has since been used widely in the field of gender studies.
How does it affect self-perception?
Internalized monosexism can impact one's perception of oneself, leading to feelings of shame, inferiority, and low self-esteem.
Those who identify as non-heterosexual may feel they are less deserving of love or respect because their sexual orientation is seen as unnatural or abnormal. They may believe they have something wrong with them that needs to be fixed or suppressed. This can result in internalizing oppressive narratives about themselves and engaging in unhealthy coping mechanisms such as substance abuse or avoidance behaviors.
Effects on relational decisions
Internalized monosexism can affect decision-making related to relationships. Those who hold these beliefs may struggle to date or befriend individuals outside their perceived "norm." They may seek out partners who validate their sense of being straight/cisgender or avoid those who challenge it. This can lead to isolation, loneliness, and difficulty forming meaningful connections. It also perpetuates existing power imbalances between cis/straight people and LGBTQIA+ individuals.
Internalized monosexism is a problematic attitude that requires addressing through awareness and education. By acknowledging our own biases and prejudices around sexuality, we can begin to dismantle this harmful system and create more inclusive spaces for all identities.
How does internalized monosexism impact self-perception and relational decision-making?
Internalized monosexism is defined as an individual's belief that they are only attracted to individuals of one specific gender and/or sexual identity. This can lead to negative impacts on their self-perception and relational decision-making. Those who experience internalized monosexism may feel pressure from society to conform to heteronormative expectations, leading them to view themselves as "abnormal" or even "unlovable.