Faith and Sexual Orientation
Individuals may have multiple identities and values that define their personhood. One's belief system is an important aspect of one's self-concept and can influence many aspects of life.
Some people identify as Christians, Muslims, Hindus, Jews, Buddhists, or followers of another religion. Others may practice spirituality or be agnostic or atheist. Some religions teach specific norms related to behavior and social mores, including those related to human sexuality. Religious affiliation and religious identity are not necessarily related to sexual orientation. People may experience sexual attraction for individuals of various genders, but they do not all choose to act upon these attractions or engage in sexual relations. Individuals who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or heterosexual may find themselves in conflict between their faith and their sexuality. This article explores how individuals can integrate faith and sexual orientation while maintaining psychological health and moral coherence.
Incorporating Faith and Sexual Orientation
There are several ways that individuals can integrate faith and sexual orientation. These include accepting a dual nature, choosing abstinence, practicing celibacy outside marriage, and practicing acceptance and tolerance. The first approach, accepting a dual nature, involves acknowledging both facets of oneself without feeling compelled to suppress either. This approach affirms the validity of being LGBTQ+ and allows for reconciliation with one's faith community.
This approach may not work for everyone and depends on the individual's level of comfort with their sexuality and belief system.
The second option is to choose abstinence until married. This means refraining from sex outside of marriage. In some cases, individuals who feel called by God to remain abstinent may view this as the most ethical choice despite feelings of sexual desire towards others. Some religions teach that sex outside of marriage is wrong, while others have more lenient views. Abstinence can be difficult to practice and requires self-control, which may take time to develop.
Another option is to practice celibacy outside marriage. This involves remaining chaste even within a committed relationship. It may involve living together but not having sex or engaging in other intimate behaviors. This is an uncommon option but could be pursued by those who want to avoid temptations and focus on spiritual growth and service. While it may seem restrictive, some people find it rewarding and liberating.
Acceptance and tolerance are key factors in integrating faith and sexual orientation. Individuals should understand the perspectives of their religious leaders and congregation, and they should strive to show respect and acceptance towards them. They should also find ways to integrate their sexual orientation into their spiritual lives, such as through prayer and meditation.
Finding a supportive community of like-minded individuals can help individuals navigate this challenge.