Sexual morality is a major aspect of every religion, culture, tradition, community, family, and individual's way of life. Many religions consider premarital sex immoral and unacceptable, shaming those who engage in it. As a result, many people feel ashamed about their bodies due to societal expectations for sexual purity before marriage. Sexual shame can affect individuals physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and socially. It may lead them to withdraw from society or socialize less, avoid talking about their body, hide their sex lives, or suffer anxiety, depression, guilt, low self-esteem, self-blame, or suicidal thoughts. This article explores how religious condemnation of premarital sex shapes bodily shame and sexual self-perception.
Religious Views on Premarital Sex
Different religions have different views on premarital sex, which shape bodily shame differently.
Islam considers it haram or forbidden, while Hinduism, Judaism, Christianity, Buddhism, Taoism, and Confucianism all frown upon it but do not ban it outright. Some cultures view premarital sex as normal and even encourage it (e.g., ancient Greece), while others see it as an essential step towards marriage.
Bodily Shame
Society's expectations for sexual purity contribute to bodily shame. People who engage in premarital sex often experience fear, embarrassment, and shame that they are "dirty" or "impure." They may feel disconnected from family, friends, community, faith, and God. The body is seen as sinful, dirty, or impure if used outside of marriage, leading to physical self-loathing and feelings of unworthiness. Many people believe their bodies must be hidden until marriage. This can lead to self-doubt, lack of self-care, isolation, lack of self-confidence, poor health, and difficulty forming relationships.
Sexual Self-Perception
Religion may also influence individuals' sexual self-perception and behavior. Those who view sex within marriage as a sacred act between two consenting adults may enjoy more positive sexual experiences than those with negative attitudes towards sex. Religious communities teach abstinence education to avoid pregnancy, STDs, and heartbreak, which can affect sexual pleasure. Individuals may struggle with guilt, regret, anxiety, or depression due to religious beliefs about sex. Premarital sex may lead them to question their spirituality, moral values, and relationship with God.
Religious condemnation of premarital sex shapes bodily shame and sexual self-perception. It can cause physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and social harm. Sexual morality is highly personal, but it should not dictate one's worth or wellbeing. People should accept themselves and others without judgment or shame, embrace their bodies and sexual desires positively, seek medical advice, and explore safe sex options.