When a soldier returns home from deployment, they may have experienced traumatic events that have impacted their mental health. This can include PTSD, depression, anxiety, or substance abuse. Their partners may also experience these symptoms.
Research shows that partners who are patient and supportive during this difficult time can help improve their partner's mental health outcomes.
Soldiers often need time to process what they have seen and experienced before returning home. They may not be able to talk about it right away or may need time to process it alone. Partners should understand this and give them space to do so without pressure. This means avoiding asking too many questions or prying for details. Instead, offer reassurance and let your partner know you are there if they need to talk when they feel ready.
Partners should also try to maintain a positive attitude towards their relationship even during tough times. This can mean doing things together as a couple or going out with friends. It is important not to blame your partner or get angry at them for their behavior. It is helpful to remember that your partner's actions may be due to trauma exposure rather than personal choices. By staying calm and focused on the present moment, partners can create an environment where their soldier feels supported and safe.
Partners should also take care of themselves physically and emotionally during this time. This means getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising regularly, and connecting with friends and family. It can also mean seeking professional help if needed. Therapy or counseling can provide support and guidance in navigating these challenges.
Patience and understanding are key components of supporting a soldier's emotional processing after deployment. Partners must respect the fact that soldiers may not want to talk about their experiences right away and instead provide comfort and security. By taking care of yourself and being patient, partners can help their soldier heal from trauma exposure and build a stronger relationship in the long run.
How do partners sustain relational patience when soldiers' emotional processing is slowed or inconsistent due to trauma exposure?
Relational patience refers to the ability of partners to understand their significant other's feelings and behavior without reacting impulsively. In situations where partners experience delayed responses from their military spouses, they must maintain composure even though the individual may not be acting as expected.