Some people who explore BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) adopt titles for those they submit to, such as "Master," "Mistress," "Sir," or "Ma'am." These titles are used both during playtime and outside of it, creating an atmosphere of power exchange within the relationship.
These titles are not set in stone; they can evolve over time based on personal preferences, emotions, and trust. Titles like "Daddy" or "Mommy" may also be adopted by submissives who want to create a more family-like dynamic. Using these terms regularly can deepen the connection between partners and make BDSM even more enjoyable.
One way this happens is through gradual progression.
A submissive might start calling their dominant "Sir," then eventually shift to "Daddy," reflecting a deeper level of trust and intimacy that has developed. The title can also change depending on the context. During more intense scenes, a submissive might use a more formal term like "Master," while during everyday life they might choose something less serious like "Honey." This allows each partner to take on different roles at different times, keeping things fresh and exciting.
Choosing titles together creates a shared emotional language that reflects your unique bond. If you discuss what you want from the relationship beforehand, you can establish a common understanding and avoid misunderstandings later on. You might decide that certain phrases or words only apply in specific situations, or have special meanings when paired with other words.
Using "please" instead of "order" can convey politeness without giving up control, while saying "I demand" indicates an expectation that must be followed.
Titles are a powerful tool for creating boundaries and defining relationships. They should reflect your desires, not those of others. For some people, being addressed as "Your Highness" or "Goddess" is too much; for others, it's perfect. Some prefer to call their dominant by their name, or a nickname they both agree upon. It's essential to communicate openly about this topic so that everyone involved feels comfortable and safe.