The Prostate: What It Is, How to Stimulate It, and Why It Matters
By Dr. Richard J. P. Jones
Many men are unaware that they have a small gland located between their rectum and bladder known as the prostate. This tiny organ plays an important role in sexual functioning and can be stimulated during intercourse for additional pleasure. In this article, I will explain what the prostate is, how it affects sexual pleasure, and ways to safely stimulate it during foreplay and intercourse.
What is the prostate?
The prostate gland is about the size and shape of a walnut and sits just below the bladder and above the base of the penis. Its main function is to produce semen, which contains sperm cells to fertilize eggs. The prostate also helps create ejaculation fluids and contracts rhythmically during orgasm.
Why does the prostate matter?
For some people, prostate stimulation feels good. During arousal, the blood flow increases to the area around the prostate, making it more sensitive. When you or your partner strokes or caresses the prostate, it creates extra sensation that can lead to intense orgasms. Some people even report experiencing "multiple" orgasms when the prostate is stimulated. Because of its location near the pelvic floor muscles and surrounding nerves, the prostate is often called the male G-spot due to its pleasurable sensations.
How do you stimulate the prostate?
There are several methods to stimulate the prostate. Many people find prostate stimulation most pleasurable during masturbation, but others prefer it with a partner. Here are three popular techniques:
1. Finger prostate massage
During solo play, insert a well-lubricated finger into the anus and curl it up towards the front wall of the rectum. Gently press on different areas until you feel a small bump. Once found, apply pressure in circular motions or a come-hither motion. You may notice a fluid build-up, known as pre-ejaculate, which adds extra lubrication for deeper penetration.
2. Prostate massage toys
Prostate massagers can be purchased at sex shops or online. They are typically phallic-shaped and have a curved end to reach the prostate easily. Before inserting any toy, use plenty of lube to reduce friction and prevent discomfort. Begin by pressing the tip against the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus) and move slowly towards the prostate. Some toys vibrate or rotate to enhance pleasure.
3. Penis-in-anus intercourse
For some men, having their partner enter their anus can be intimidating, but this method has additional benefits such as anal stretching and anal orgasm. If your partner is new to anal play, take things slow and start with small amounts of lube. Avoid using condoms or silicone-based lubes that can cause irritation or breakdown over time. Communicate openly about boundaries and what feels good.
Is prostate stimulation safe?
Yes, prostate stimulation is generally safe when done correctly. However, there are some risks associated with anal play including fecal matter entering the bloodstream or urinary tract infections. Always wash hands before touching the anus and practice good hygiene during sexual activity. Use gloves or finger cots if sharing toys. Consult a doctor if you experience persistent pain, bleeding, or other unusual symptoms after prostate play.
In conclusion, prostate stimulation can add another dimension to sexual experiences for many people. Whether through solo play or partnered sex, it takes patience and communication to find what works best for each person. Remember to prioritize safety and enjoy exploring this sensitive part of the body.