Erotic Mentorship refers to guidance on matters of human sexuality, from birth until death. The term includes all aspects of sexuality, including but not limited to physical pleasure, romance, intimacy, reproduction, consent, identity, boundaries, expression, communication, health, safety, and more. Erotic Mentors may be anyone, such as parents, teachers, friends, lovers, therapists, coaches, counselors, family members, colleagues, etc. They can offer practical advice, emotional support, knowledge, skills, experience, wisdom, opportunities, connections, inspiration, motivation, guidance, validation, encouragement, and/or anything else helpful for individual development.
At age sixteen, I wanted an erotic mentor who would teach me how to masturbate properly, safely, and mindfully. I didn't know what to do, how to feel, or where to touch myself. I thought it was wrong and bad because I hadn't seen anyone else doing it. But my friend told me otherwise. He said that he did it often, that it felt great, and showed me how to do it too. I remember feeling embarrassed at first but also curious. We were in his bedroom, alone together, with no one around. He turned off the lights and took off his clothes slowly. Then he grabbed a bottle of lotion and lube from underneath his mattress. He asked if I had ever touched myself before, which I said yes. And then he started rubbing himself while telling me what to do. We both got aroused quickly, and soon enough we were playing with each other's bodies. Afterward, we cuddled naked in his arms, feeling good about ourselves.
Erotic Mentorship is essential for all ages, including teenagers. At 25 years old, I wanted someone who could help me explore my sexuality further. Someone who could challenge me emotionally, physically, intellectually, spiritually, creatively, and socially. Who could give me new perspectives on sex, relationships, intimacy, pleasure, power dynamics, vulnerability, boundaries, communication, safety, etc. Someone who understood my needs and desires and helped me achieve them better. That person never came along until much later in life. It wasn't until I met my current partner that I finally found someone who knew exactly what I needed. Now, we have been together for over ten years, and our relationship has only become more fulfilling, intense, and exciting. Our erotic mentorship continues as we continue to learn, grow, change, evolve, and share everything together.
It is never too late or early to seek out an Erotic Mentor. The journey begins when you are ready, where you are, at any time. Whether it be online, offline, publicly or privately, formally or informally, professionally or casually - the choice is yours! Find your own style of learning and exploring yourself; there is no one-size-fits-all solution. The key is being open-minded, curious, willing to try new things, willing to ask questions, and willing to learn from others. There is always something else to discover about oneself, others, and how we relate with each other through physical touch, romance, intimacy, and beyond.