The effects of relational secrecy and social isolation have been studied extensively, but little research has focused on how they affect romantic relationships. Relationships require trust and openness, which are undermined when partners keep secrets from each other. This study investigates how peer support can buffer against the negative impacts of relational secrecy and social isolation.
Peer support is important for individuals' wellbeing because it helps them feel connected to others and provides emotional and practical support during difficult times. Peers may be friends, family members, coworkers, neighbors, or acquaintances who offer advice, comfort, and validation without judgement or criticism. In romantic relationships, peers can provide an outlet for confiding in someone outside the relationship, while also providing insight into one's own behavior and feelings.
In terms of relational secrecy, studies show that keeping secrets from one's partner can lead to feelings of distrust, betrayal, and insecurity. Secrets may involve infidelity, finances, mental health issues, or past experiences. Partners who keep secrets may avoid conflict, fear judgment, or want to protect their partner's feelings.
This secrecy can erode trust and intimacy, leading to distance and even breakups.
Social isolation occurs when an individual lacks meaningful connections with others, whether due to lack of social opportunities, social anxiety, or social rejection. Isolation can cause loneliness, depression, and decreased physical health. Individuals who experience both relational secrecy and social isolation may benefit from peer support by having a safe space to discuss their feelings and receive empathy from others.
This study examined data from college students who reported on their romantic relationship satisfaction, peer support, and secrecy. Results showed that those who kept more secrets were less satisfied with their relationships, but this effect was buffered by higher levels of peer support.
Those who felt more socially isolated were less satisfied with their relationships, but this effect was also attenuated by greater peer support.
These findings suggest that peer support can help individuals cope with the negative effects of relational secrecy and social isolation by reducing feelings of distress and increasing emotional wellbeing. This supports the idea that social connection is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and overall happiness. Future research should explore how different types of peers (e.g., family vs. friends) and contexts (e.g., online vs. in-person) impact these outcomes.
In what ways does peer support buffer against the negative effects of relational secrecy and social isolation?
Peer support can help individuals cope with the negative impacts of relational secrecy and social isolation by providing them with a sense of connection and belongingness within a group or community. The sense of security that comes from being part of a group helps individuals feel less alone and more able to share their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or stigma.